Archive for July, 2010

RELATIONSHIPS

Thursday, July 29th, 2010

There’s nothing new when it comes to relationships although you would would think it’s something hot off the press taking into account the amount of books on the subject and courses being run helping people supposedly get a relationship or make what they’ve got better. Most people want a relationship whether straight, gay or anything in between, people want a significant other in their lives and for some just having a “best mate” or “girlfriend” can fulfill that role quite well, sometimes even better than a partner. It may not do much on the emotional side sex wise but for all other areas it often ticks most of the boxes without strings or repercussions.

Relationships are not the proverbial 50/50 split, they are what they are 70/30, 60/40, 10/90, as long as it all adds up to 100% and it works for you, both of you. The ideology of a relationship, not taking into account media stuff where people fall out of bed one day and end up in another the next and in between live in rehab and see shrinks to tell them that’s it’s all right.  It’s just so easy today to shack up with someone else to “see how it goes” and end up with a series of “have a go” relationships based upon infatuation, economies of money, convenience and it’s better to have someone to go out with than be perpetually on your own. But the base line is you are part of a structured scenario of on going relationship failures, and the common denominator in all those relationships is yourself, not the other partner, you. It’s you who has failed endlessly because despite what you think you didn’t put enough into any of them to make a real go of it, unless of course you are a flop at finding decent people, which some are, but that says a lot about you.

A real relationship, not a designer one where two wealthy people get together and plan life, children, by age and style etc still want their own space, the coldness of life persists there and causes emotional problems and lots of affairs too. But a real relationship changes two people who were previously “I” or “me” or “my” and it now becomes “us” or “we” or “ours”, you are a couple, a singular word describing two people, a sinle unity of two, surprise surprise. All this modern “I need my space” is tantamount to failure before it starts. There’s no reason why when hitched as a couple each one can’t still indulge in their activities of gym, sports, football, shopping, old friends, etc, hey life is a communion with others not a journey into reclusive habits. But mutual understanding and above all  LOVE, let’s say it again LOVE works its magic and melds all of those singular traits into something unique warm and fabulous. Where couple want to be together becaue they love each other, they want to share and care, and yes stresses do occur and people like peace and quiet, but the bottom line is they WANT their other half full stop.

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BEING ABLE TO SMILE

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

The human form is full of functions some major some less so, they all have a tactical function, bodies are the same the world over yet some societies and cultures show what can happen when we abuse our human form because of pathetic outmoded and staid functionality based upon traditions and ancient hand me down protocols.  Especially so when you see some Eastern cultures mixing with Western cultures and their compatibility issues start to form barriers rather than be homogenised with a coherent and warm life interface. We have those debased politically correct nerds, life’s failures, who try to fix everything under the “one size fits all” banner but like oil and water no matter how hard you shake it, it still separates out.

Where smiling was once a pleasant past time making humans inter-relate to one another, showing degrees of humanity and camaraderie and showing also degrees of approachability should one need to be approached. But in today’s environment where many keep themselves to themselves there is an increase in the subject of mental health and instability and loneliness, and do you wonder? Who wants to associate with a glum and pathetic looking person, who appears transfixed in their own narrow world, who looks selfish and possibly angry, who looks like no one wants them and with reason too, who look suspicious because they are. Happiness is an issue today and there are even courses and books on the subject where people buy the books or attended the courses by sad people who by their own hand have lost the plot and think that there are secrets to happiness and life, the only secret is why they have turned themselves into morons.

Happy people smile readily even to those who look on in horror as if there’s a hidden plot afoot and Sculley off in a tizzy heart pounding that someone smiled at them.  Happy people see the bigger picture, they get more help more readily than those who are depressed or feign depressing stories, happy people are healthier too and don’t hold grudges because they have better things to do, whilst the dull and stupid haven’t anything better to do than to dwell on the little they have even though it’s all negative. Smiling produces confidence and trust and promotes a better ambiance all around, it gives a positive stance and even those who are in pain or discomfort that can smile do so because it elevates and heightens their inner self and whole life structure. The selfish wear glum looks on their face forever seeking sympathy because they are selfish and have very little human worth or ability to offer anyone unless there is something in it for themselves. 

The human condition is today changing, it’s facing new problems of global size and domestic differences that fluctuate from base line credibility to whatever or whoever raises the matter. But within all of this there are those the vast majority that just get on with life, that live to live and by and large enjoy it and know the value of intermingling and smiling at all and sundry because at the end of the day they know it makes them feel good. Life is a choice our actions do produce conditions and those conditions can subliminally make us ill, but those choices are ours and ours alone, we are not lonely, or cranky or unloved or isolated for nothing, life doesn’t seek us out we are part of the millions on the planet, what we create is what we create.

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LOVE

Tuesday, July 27th, 2010

The most powerful word in any vocabulary is LOVE, for without love we have no purpose, we have nothing to live for and we are bereft of our identity. With love in our hearts life seems better even than it possibly is because we see beyond the present circumstances and are not bogged down by trivia or others emotions and thoughts which are nothing to do with us.  We are not sponges anymore to the media diatribe run and marketed by the subnormal who try to hype everything to a level that makes many feel there’s nothing left, only for it all to be condemned to the rubbish bins of tomorrow as new stories come about.

Love is a spherical object, it’s white and pure, it has no strings nor conditions, it is what it is pure love in its total form. God is pure love too, if God has any degree of lack of mercy within His doctrine then its not God it’s the Devil incarnate, after all that’s the Devil’s job!  Where it all goes wrong is that man makes conditions, because as wonderful as the human race is man isn’t perfect, and therefore imperfections crop up for divisive actions that man creates to get his own way. All religions speak of love, but they are run by men, created by men and have evil within themselves, one only has to look at Islam to see every Islamic country is unstable, just go and visit anyone to see for yourself, any one, to see endless conditions, endless regulations, press secensorship, total lack of human rights, backward progress, and so it goes on. Where love exists so does happiness too, where love exists everyone should be happy for others for their sake so that if your son or daughter tells you they are marrying someone outside of their faith or that they are gay you won’t go mental and start shouting and screaming because it doesn’t fall into your selfish plans plans or that God will kill you. (What the hell’s all that about?).  That’s love with conditions that’s tantamount to Devil Worship, because the Devil doesn’t want happiness. But so many “so called” religious people are pathetic and pay lip service to it rather than believe it. The conduit to ANY God is love, hence religion doesn’t work, and never has it can’t as it’s divisive.

With love we have warmth, fellowship, camaraderie, understanding, compassion, life, happiness, we have truth and trust, we have progress, evolution, advancement, we don’t fear God unless it’s reverential fear, we don’t believe in guilt, nor hatred even though we may have endured dreadful hardship and atrocities because where love exists we leave the past behind and move forward to a better place unless of course we live in the West Bank in the Middle East and breed hatred for the sake of it. With love within it makes us stronger and wiser people seeing the bigger picture and not giving in to the negative emotions the Devil plants to thwart our lives, and which many accept as a way of life and wonder why things never improve. Politicians and diplomats are becoming weak and overall self centred and thus they will hardly ever agree on any policy that’s best for all even though there is never a “one size fits all” that the politically correct life failures seem to think exists.  

Love stops right at the start of potential conflicts, it stops killings, and it stops deceit, it stops hatred, envy, greed, avariciousness and jealousy as there is no room nor need for negative emotions, and it doesn’t put up with tantrums from selfish people at all, they can get on with their selfishness elsewhere. Designer love which percolates in media circles and the press is where hollow love resides at the moment, where down to earth honesty is almost the same as the words paranoid and rehab, the self hype needed to sustain life is self defeating for many, although it’s not an exclusivity where arrogance of who individuals think they are beyond who they are and it debases their mind set and adds to mental health problems which plague many today.

Love keeps us healthy, our immune system is strengthened with love and lowered with negative thoughts, love heightens our perceptions and stops us making wrong decisions as we get a clarity of thought and vision that those who see others things lack. Without love we are nothing and so is life. Without love we never have a decent relationship with anyone, our partner, best friend, work associates, everything is a “me” and “them” situation and after a while a frost mentality ensues where one becomes sceptical and cold about all in life and then the rot sets in sometimes permanently.

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COMMUNICATING

Monday, July 26th, 2010

Whoever we are communications are essential to our lives, without communications we are lost and miss out on not only life itself but the things which make us happy and keep our mind, body and soul together as well as friends and family too. There’s very little today that doesn’t need communications and the level of communicating is so far advanced that machines and functions are talking to one another, even some fridges today can tell you what’s out of date and when you need to re-order, and it’s becoming more and more interactive as the days go by. We are all different some people are gregarious others are somewhat reserved but whatever the status is we need to communicate effectively, and the word effective is the operative word for if we cannot make ourselves understood we are still lost. Saying what we mean isn’t the same as meaning what we say, often there’s no time for translations of thought or contradictions, you say one thing others pick up on it and that’s that.

Those that get on in life have the ability to speak in tones that others feel warmed to, if one speaks in  monosyllabic tones then others become somewhat uneasy that intelligence behind such a voice is limited and therefor keep away, which is often the case. Cultural differences can make in themselves a difference in acceptability of voice and whilst it’s getting less and less in today’s multi-cultural society the base line is intelligibility and confidence in what is being said is either accurate or will be carried out. Overseas call centres are one of the biggest gripes in most western societies, and the idiots that teach them, otherwise why would they say what they say like parrots.  

Communications in any large company or even small one are an essential element for many people rely on others input and knowledge for them to proceed and it’s not always the case that it’s all a common spread on a database, it’s not, much of what has to be said is originally generated by one human being therefore that knowledge needs to be shared by others to be effective. How many times have you left a message on the voicemail of a person in a company and they haven’t phoned back, and this action is never checked.

Global interfaces are forever active today, there are chains of commands that are relayed from strategic points to strategic points, there are statistics and demographic facts and figures and numerically crunched data that pinpoints who does what when where how and what age they are and anything else they can fast link to profile assess who’s who. The smooth running of our own lives requires that we know what we need to live and what we would like to enjoy life over and above the essentials, and what we need to do to keep our friends and family otherwise we will end up bereft of camaraderie and what humanity means to us and then we become mentally unstable, which is happening more and more.

Communicating is not just about saying what you want and calling it a day, we have a range of communicating facilities such as smiling, body language, how we dress, our positive attitude, our ability to be generous in some way, and so it goes on. The dull do nothing the happy do everything it’s the way it is and it’s the way you make it for yourself.  It’s all choices and characters, what’s your choice going to be is it linked to your character?    For More :-

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PERCEPTIONS

Sunday, July 25th, 2010

How we look at life has a bearing upon how life treats us and how we enjoy life. If we associate conditions to our life then we are by and large always going to fail as somewhere out there there will be always someone or something better than what we currently have or have experienced. Our attitude and our own way of assimilating life brings together who we are and what we are and together those form our opinions of life. We all know those who are almost always happy and uplifting and those who are quite the opposite and depressing, even if they both share a great commonality in life how they react to the self same thing differs enormously. It’s this difference that makes or breaks how we both enjoy life and see beyond the here and now and look towards something better ahead no matter what that is.

As individuals our characters vary enormously as do our abilities and knowledge, so our thoughts towards what we can do, how, why, for what purpose and how best to utilise all in our life style is down to us. If we have illusions of grandeur then we will perpetually be lost, if our thoughts are grand then we can often settle for a half way house position or even get enjoyment and satisfaction from something en-route to our goal which quenches that forever ongoing desire and we feel more at peace and at one with ourselves and life. When we are at peace we don’t experience jealousy or envy or greed or any other any negative emotion because we see life for what it is and thus the contentment or reality of life shines and glows from within to without.

We can really screw up our lives by having wrong perceptions, wrong perceptions based on bad assimilation of information or more to the point a lack of good information that we can effectively process to see how we make our thoughts and feelings come to a common point with regard aspects of life. It’s not uncommon to hear that on a day out some people would think it was really good and enjoyable whereas others just didn’t like it and everything was wrong, same conditions, different perceptions and results. Being too hasty and judgmental is a fatal thing for many and in some cases it can be irreversible too, once something is done it’s done. That’s why it’s imperative that we don’t ever relinquish our abilities to others who then decide for us even if for most of the time they are correct. If something happens they will automatically plump for what they want and you will just have to tag along, it goes without saying most of the time.

Colouring our perceptions with selfishness, greed, hatred etc will set us in the wrong direction in life and create an unease that we will never be able to shake off, although many try by lavishing upon themselves goods and material benefits and service to try and overcome it all, it never works for in time to come all such things pale into insignificance as life feels shallow and pale. Our perceptions must always be real and not based upon emotional content that has no bearing upon the issues involved nor any other aspects of self driven personal diatribe. Even if our conclusion for our perceptions are alien to our way of thinking, it’s expedient to go with those correct feelings and not the self ones as they could possibly come back to haunt you. Being as honest as you can be is always the best policy and one then doesn’t have to cover up with more lies and made up stories.

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GUILT

Saturday, July 24th, 2010

Firstly and fore-mostly there is no merit to guilt whatsoever, whether the deed you did was terrible even if it was at the time grossly vindictive, being guilty will not help rectify the past one little bit, even if those sad and two faced judgmental people around you want you to feel guilty, it’s only for their insipid pleasure nothing more. It’s difficult to overcome at times guilt, especially if what you did affected loved ones or friends, but saying sorry from the heart should be accepted by those that mean something to you, and if it’s not accepted then they aren’t that much better themselves as people. There are two sides to every coin and there are two sides to our actions whatever the reason for them.

Guilt can tear us up, it can tear us apart, it can ruin our  lives and it can cause a great deal of mental instability as well as physical harm to our whole system.  Guilt stops us seeing the way forward and harbours many other negative traits that can appear larger than what they are. Guilt can makes us see elements in life which are not quite what they appear to be, read into things aspects that are not suggested, feel personal slights by others general quips and notions even in  jest, in short our mind goes into hyper mode and we start to create a reality that’s on a level that only we can access.

There are those that try to create guilt or repeat events of the past to try and induce or keep going guilt whether it’s potential or real in others, which is not only cruel but spiteful and shows a debased mentality by the instigator, yet it’s not uncommon and it happens in families and family feuds are made of this stuff. Of course real love where present precludes being bitchy, harassing, spiteful and all the rest because it wouldn’t be the love walk if that all existed. And whilst we many touch upon notions that come into our minds, after all we can’t just eradicate past thoughts, in our complexity of mind assimilation’s of life, who we are and how we are as human beings, we should negate all traces of regurgitating the negative aspects of the past otherwise we will drag ourselves into it by default, once that happens we are no better than what we are dragging up from the past ourselves. It’s not smart and if by dragging the past up gives you a buzz – as it can for some, then you are the real big time losers in life. Guilt is part of the negative emotions complex, none of them serve any purpose whatsoever other than what we ourselves implement for negative reasons. Moving forward means letting go, letting go means leaving negativity where it belongs in the past. No excuses accepted even by the self perpetuated and selfish, repeat NO EXCUSES.

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EMOTIONS

Friday, July 23rd, 2010

We all have emotions, it’s part of the human condition, it’s what makes us sentient human beings, it’s what gives us the degrees of humanity, it’s what makes us interact with one another, it’s what and how we look upon life and apportion degrees of compassion and understanding, and it’s what we hopefully interlace with our logic too for if we don’t mayhem ensues. Our emotions are what Hollywood is built upon, it’s how we view our partners, it’s how we view life and form opinions, it’s what makes us tick. But like everything in life there are two sides, and often the flip side is not quite as Rosy as we would care to think. The positive side of our emotions is love, happiness, kindness, gratitude, gracefulness, humility, compassion, selflessness, etc. The negative side is greed, ego, pride, jealousy, avariciousness, anger, hate, etc, etc, all stuff we are familiar with and unfortunately all too often showing in religions.

As individuals we are all different, some are quite perfused with how they represent themselves in life, others quite reticent, others flamboyant but empty and others somewhat dowdy but full of warmth and goodness, our outward and inward appearances can be so deceptive. How we deal with situations in life makes a world of difference in how they come about to a positive and amicable conclusion. Similarly today there is a defined lack of statesmanship in the realms of politicians and how they come across in life and how they prove their value, sadly it’s often lacking. There are races that when anything happens get emotionally charged in an instant causing even more mayhem. And there are those that look coolly upon the whole events see the bigger picture and then apportion the best or correct way to resolve whatever has happened. The difference between these two areas is enormous and thus it’s vitally important that when things do go wrong the right people can cope. It’s easy for everyone to cope when life is going well, the litmus test comes into place the moment it doesn’t, and it shows immediately.

Our emotions can make or break whom we are, we can apportion”emotional blackmail” upon others and make then feel bad, some women can start crying at the drop of a hat to try and get their way by feigning tears to gain sympathy so they can win their cause, but this represents low life people and those who are not very nice, and often unstable too. There are those who are forever moody which represents a selfish streak  within and sometimes one in which they reside regularly feeding on the negative adrenalin rush within. There are those who are permanently selfish always seeing what they can get back by giving or not even going that far, by not giving there is no need for reciprocation and so it goes on.

We represent our characters daily by our actions, our attitude, our lightness or heaviness and by the way we interact. We may not think so but just about everyone who knows us will have a defined opinion of who we are not from a purely subjective point of view but from a realistic point of view and one which they have experienced. Emotions are essential to life, but so is logic, and it’s always prudent to look at the bigger picture that way it averts panic and irrational thoughts, even for those who almost always pass over responsibility to others. 

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YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM – YOU

Thursday, July 22nd, 2010

We often think about problems arising such as health, wealth, illness, relationships, family and friends, work, etc, the list can go on and on and in our own way we have ways of dealing with such events or not as the case maybe with some people. Whatever problems arise it’s how we deal with them that is how we are going to cope with them. Some people are very good at getting to grips straight away with what needs to be done regardless of the enormity that may arise, whilst others may ponder and procrastinate until events themselves force the issue to be dealt with almost by default. And then there are those almost immediately who go into panic mode and seek help from all and sundry regardless of it’s validity and pertinence and then just struggle through the bumpy road ahead.

Our life is lived within our minds, nowhere else does it exist, everything we do or think of or don’t think of stems from our own thoughts. There are too those who follow others like lemmings, it’s their decision to follow, so whatever the result is they have been somewhere down the line a prime instigator of how they will have dealt with the issues at hand. Our self esteem, cultural disposition, way of life etc will have at times quite profound effects upon how we look at life and how well we do, and indeed how life treats us too. Our attitude is formulated within our mind, what we wear, what we eat, how we speak, our aptitudes lie there too and our abilities, the decisions we make to be honest or dishonest rest there, how we view life and our partners and our children and our homes, how we drive our cars, every single thing no matter how small comers from our mind. All this talk about “well they made me do it” or “well I got angry I couldn’t help it” is rubbish, you allowed your ego, or greed, or arrogance or anger, or avariciousness or jealousy to creep in to the mind talk and influence your decisions, and you allowed it to happen.

We are not all equal in life, and there’s no reason why we should be, we are born into a world which is not fair but it’s not actually stacked up against us either, degrees of fairness are introduced by man himself on a morality and humanitarian level, but over and above that fairness is just another word in the dictionary. Some seemingly do well in life whereas others appear to struggle, but if one was to analyse the lives of such individuals there would be a relatively clear definition and distinction between those that do and those that don’t. And whilst it’s good to think, thinking doesn’t do anything ever without a deed attached to it, so being wise doesn’t necessarily produce any benefits unless it can be put to work. Our fears and inhibitions come from within, our reticence and resilience come from within, our drive and levels of satisfaction are composed within and we adhere at times to our ‘mind setup’ as if it’s etched in stone. But like any computer if we don’t allow updates and modify our thinking we by our own hand hold ourselves back based upon backward thinking. Islam is a point in question although many Muslims would not acknowledge such but look at Islam and the other religions and those that work in world industries and see whose who?  If we don’t allow ourselves to accept the here and now and hold ourselves back based upon fear and uncertainty then our own retribution will be a point to forever reckon with.

We always need to look at the bigger picture too, some cultures are almost emotionally based and logic is the second line of thought, again look towards the Middle Eastern countries forever out in the streets, shouting, firing guns, throwing stones, burning the American flag, it’s pathetic, but it’s a defunct culture that prevails and the outward signs of growth are made only by a few who have evolved, whereas the masses live sheltered in an historical time warp. But regardless of whom we are and where we are we need to face life full on, hysteria only helps one lose the plot and produces frustration and apathy for those trying to help. In the end those that require benefit often lose out because no one has confidence in their abilities and thoughts and base line understanding to go forward on a positive note, often just waiting for the next outburst to happen, for example the West Bank in the Middle East, it’s a deja vu situation and based upon emotions not humanitarian logic even though that’s used as a tactic, it’s all hollow bravado.  

If we give our thoughts away, admonish personal responsibility, not face the facts no matter how hard they may be then we will always see life ahead as an obstacle, if we do our best and at times that may be not good enough but provided its done with good heart we will pull through, we don’t need miracles in life no matter how warranted they may be, we can do it at a lesser level provided it comes from a good place and not some emotionally created scenario that’s selfish and trite and often covers up evil intent.

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CULTURE & SOCIETY

Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

In the West we tend today to live in a multi-cultural society, that is the endemic population is co-living with immigrants from usually lesser areas of the world who are seeking fame and fortune and hopefully a better life than from whence they came. These places from whence they care are predominantly third world countries and are either perpetual failures, badly run, almost totally corrupt, religiously controlled, outmoded conditions, or just so far removed from a Western Society mentally for whatever reason that basically they don’t stand a cat in hell’s chance of ever making the grade, despite what’s being done by outside forces again from the west. The modern “politically correct” edict is that different cultures enhance our own, but where this notion came from is alien as it’s often the cultures from where these people resided that has held them back for centuries. Old traditions modified over time forms a culture that because no one has had the guts or brains to brake free from they have never gone forward, hence they left and entered the West the land of milk and honey and welfare.

It’s true we go on holiday to far off lands on our super jumbos, full of inoculations and tablets and insurance to experience the foods (yummy) and the cultures (interesting) and the way’s of life (do people really live like that) and so on. Where our gin & tonics at the hotel cost a weeks wage, it’s all fascinating stuff, grossly educational and it broadens the mind and our thoughts on life, similarly it enhances our notions on design, fashion, taste, and all the rest we subliminally pick up upon. But once in the West do we really want the legacy of nations that imposes forced marriages, honour killings, family emotional blackmail, make women second class citizens, do we really want traditions from others countries to live on in non compatible mode? If we put an old programme in our comuters it wouln’t work because the environment in which its placed has moven on, its evolved, yet we expect this of alien traditions. It’s nice to see the old colourful carnivals and foods brought out, but much more than that it’s all redundant to life and the way its lived today. It’s often the old family members that keep traditions alive yet in the countries from whence they came life has moved on and in some cases quite substantially. Western society has grown rightly or wrongly by the way it’s homogenised life and utilised technology, and yes it produces problems en-route, but life overcomes such it’s called evolution and every generation seemingly faces such growing pains, which viewed through the eyes of history are nothing in the grand order of life. Narrow mindedness of the moment, fear and indeed bigotry are not uncommon for the dull and pathetic who resist change yet at the same time want to embrace new benefits.

Weak governments, insipid politicians, pathetic council workers all too willing to be seen as politically expedient in bending over backwards and being British get shafted in the process by avaricious and greedy individuals who demand their rights at the expense of society itself. Anarchy from without, hemorrhaging from within, gross and indecent unfairness to those whose families have spent generations building up life in their own country for it to be abused and in areas reduced to third world status or even ghettos. Of course we have a breed of politically correct people who contribute nothing to life nor anything else, lost, useless, unstable, unloved and lacking any decent relationship both with anyone significant as well as life itself. And who do we look upon to bring life into focus, for if there is someone in the house will they stand up?

Culture is just that, it’s a culture and it may well be OK to reenact something that links to the past, but let’s not forget where and what society demands that holds all those alien and often backward philosophies that then people cry out racist, prejudice and anything else they can throw on the band waggon to try and get something for nothing. We all need to work together, and it’s OK to celebrate differences, but there is a thing called unity, and unity is the most important aspect of it all for without unity there is no peace, no cohesion, nothing. Schools all celebrate the different languages and foods and cultures, but what is everyone a part of? What brings them together to a common proudness, a togetherness, a oneness, nothing really all they can see if their lot, and the lots of dozens of others lots too, there’s no commonality anywhere and this is what is being taught. Social unrest is part of diversity, diversity is like cancer cells that keep on being diverse until it’s too late the host dies a painful death. Yet short termism and political views believing like the politically correct outcasts that one size fits all, it doesn’t and it never will. But there is a half way house, but only the sure, the brave and the wise know that route. Cultural identity outside of its environment with almost alien circumstances surrounding it raises conflicts more than it does comfort and stability. Family emotional issues are raised too often producing loggerheads about what culturally should be done but not compatible with what both circumstances and environment dictate.

There’s a fear by many of treading on other cultures, but noone should fear anything of the sort, anything good stands up to its own tests,  those that cry and make noises are frightened that if their identity goes they will have nothing left, which what it boils down to is that they have already no unity within themselves and death is an almost impending credential of outcast unity. Those younger people who break free make the grade but even religions like Islam nearly always produces societies and followers lacking behind, giving little to life, and this is even born out by the UN. Holding on to hollow edits and fear is tantamount to sounding ones own plight in life.

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COMMUNICATING

Tuesday, July 20th, 2010

For us to lead an extraordinarily good life we have to communicate, it’s no longer good enough just brooding and wishing and hoping and wondering and making assessments of life we have to commune with others in order to make it of value and worthwhile. Whether we are wealthy or poor the quality of life and our stability is down to how we live it not circumstances even though at times they weigh heavily upon us, but they are by and large transient unless we keep reinventing them or regurgitating them because we have little else to do. As people, the human condition requires contact with others for without it we go to pieces and find life a burden from which some actually never recover having allowed themselves to drop to the bottom of the ocean where the detritus lives.

The levels at which we communicate are somewhat dependent upon our character, some people are naturally flamboyant others quite dowdy and those in between try and do their best even if some haven’t a clue yet still try and make an effort. But communicating is something that’s essential and we tend naturally to communicate with those who are on our level, at times we venture out of that zone and similarly others do as we see aspects of others that excite us or give us degrees of interest, but mostly we stick to what makes us feel good and secure. There are those who will talk to anyone such is their nature and those that will latch on to others in the hope that they can use them as a conduit to get more out of life for their own selfish desires.

Communicating with others, wearing a smile, being of a happy disposition, being uplifting, not being judgmental if someone displays a trait that’s against yours or your ethos, all these little things make a difference to being accepted and to enjoying life, all these things are a reflection of our makeup and how life treats us. We can all have fixed views on life and we are all entitled to our opinions too, but where we let such things rule the roost is where we become unstuck and indeed somewhat haughty too, when that haughty attitude takes a hold life will be permanently against us. We can have our religious convictions in life and most are reasonably good, but when that forms intolerance or blatant outlandish displays it really gets everyone around annoyed and again that reduces the inter-communicational activities regarding the general populous.

If we feel too grand or aloof to talk to some or others too demanding or not the sort of person we would wish to talk to and forever keep on assimilating whose who and striking them off of our ‘OK’ list then eventually we will reduce our overall ability to talk to anyone and cut off what creative potential and knowledge we gleam from talking to others, even if at times we have to put on a brave face.  Work requires that we communicate not only to make what we do work more effective but to raise the camaraderie and ambiance of the work atmosphere which has a profound effect upon work done and the quality of such work. When life takes a tumble our best friend is our ability to communicate, and communicate well with a smile even if we are hiding the weight of the world within. We do give off vibes which others pick up and when many have their own problems to deal with they don’t want to pick up those of others especially if they have little ability to help other than just listen, but not constantly.

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