19/07/2010 by admin.

In today’s world we are bombarded by a whole manner of people who seem to take it upon themselves to be the bastions of our society and tell us what we can or can’t say, do or not do, comment upon or not comment upon and so it goes on. These people usually fall into the “politically correct” category are are by definition life’s rejects, they need to be seen to be ”doing good” on behalf of others and in doing so get some degree of kudos for it to make up fort the massive shortfall in their own pathetic lives. It’s a sad indictment that many of these such people work in government offices and are politically motivated as opposed to being diligent at what they do, failures trying to find a home, most will die probably unhappy and deep down probably unloved too.

With political correctness comes almost by default feelings that life is never right, and today more and more people instead of getting on with life are becoming self offended by anything they dislike, offended because  it’s deemed ageist, sexist, racist, and any other “ist” they can find to make a cause of for something to do. What such people can’t get to grips with is that life is not a “one size fits all” and neither are we born into a world which is fair either. Morality and fairness are what man creates himself nothing more, and if life was a level playing-field we would be in a terrible state today, there would be no creators of anything at all, engineering, pharmaceuticals, food, buildings, arts, music, etc, etc. All achievements are created by those leaving the “norm” stepping out and doing things, whilst the politically correct just leach and take from life for their own selfish reasons.

We all at times in our lives come across success and failure sometimes at the same time, there’s no measure as to why or how it just happens even if we because of our own stupidity eased it on a bit it still happens the way it does, how we react is paramount to how we overcome or get over it and quite often turn it all on its head and make it become an asset rather than a detrimental aspect of demise. For those who go into a mood tell all and sundry about what’s happened and dwell on it they do but realise they are digging themselves deeper into the crevasse that’s awaiting them. They are giving their problems gravitas and once that happens it takes a life of its own and then it becomes a primary event as opposed to a fleeting event. For those that look cooly and calmly at it, take a look at what’s what from afar, they will be able to see the bigger picture and from that point onwards will see a depth of clarity that they then can steer through towards resolution and any benefits that may come because of the action taken. An open mind is always far better than a stilted one that jumps far too quickly to conclusions then wonders why all goes awry.

We choose to be a victim or a victor despite what has behest or befallen upon us, successful people always choose the option to get out of the doldrums, miserable people find degrees of solace in depravity and thus never get anywhere and see life as a place for others to enjoy and never them, but do you wonder. When “stuff” goes wrong it’s never pleasant and we do get some degree of support from those that are significant in our lives, it gives us a friendly cheer and helps us resume our positive pathway. The “Jobs” comforters make an issue out of everything and try and keep on validating it to milk the scenario for as long as possible, these are the failures in life, the miserable and selfish people who you definitely do not want as friends.

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17/07/2010 by admin.

There’s everything to be said about happiness, without happiness life just drags on and on and on and on and day turns into night which turns into day, and so it goes on, you get the picture. Happiness fortunately for most people isn’t an issue it’s something they take for granted, and they accept too that at times in their lives that “happy” feeling is in short supply because of endemic circumstances and events no matter what they are, it happens to us all from time to time. But for some happiness is a real issue, they think that there is somewhere along the way a solution to finding happiness or that someone somewhere knows the secret or has the formulae. It’s both a sad reflection and an indictment about them that they are the prime and secondary cause of their own misery and unhappiness and always have been.

Happiness is something that always resides within us, it’s always there and always will be, whether we access it or charge our mind with positivity to make it all come alive is another story.  One can almost see sad people not that they always wear a glum expression as some hide that well from public gaze, but their overall stance and demeanour and conversational attitude doesn’t set the world on fire and often one thinks “why did they say that” as it smacks of both dullness and negativity. Sad and unhappy people are often selectively mean in many ways and always have an outlook that is rather stilted almost not giving others the option of goodness or success and thus pre-empting events with convoluted thoughts that lead nowhere.

There are today would you believe it courses on being happy, even magazines giving instructions from half deranged psycho -whatever’s on being happy, just think of psycho-whatever’s as giving help to be happy, it’s almost like inviting Dracula for your best friend, bite my neck now and let’s get it over with. There’s a commercial aspect to everything today, and there are the suckers who a just so gullible they jump at every opportunity to enhance their pathetic lives rather than just get to grips with who they are themselves. If you can’t be happy don’t expect someone else to be able to give happiness to you when its under your own control.  

Without happiness we are subject to all different forces of negativity including those evil forces exuded by the man made religions that foster guilt, hatred, fear, unrest, retribution, etc, and all the rest. We are vulnerable from even ourselves as well as others and we become very sensitive towards all aspects of life like taking offence and getting upset where none of that need apply whatsoever. We must be in charge of our lives and never ever farm it out or give control of any aspect of it to others or their stories of how some cretin can make your life wonderful by exchanging half your wealth (or even all of it) via a credit card. If what they were offering was that good it would be a global success and not just a success in raising money from the fickle and useless who are too lazy to do anything for themselves. 

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17/07/2010 by admin.

There’s a big fuss made about bereavement more than just losing a loved one, there’s a whole facade of pomp and flummery created and designed for effect, none of which has any significance whatsoever. It’s also easy when under emotional duress to coax people on and wallow in a part of their misery so that they become vulnerable by their own hand.

Whether you believe in God or not you are going to die, that’s for sure, so what you believe in is down to you. All the nonsense pertaining to respecting the dead is totally without foundation, and attending a funeral for someone you couldn’t be bothered to see whilst alive is absolute hypocrisy and pathetic. Life is for the living not the dead. Of course if you do believe then goodness knows what kind of man made rituals are put into place and effected for a fee by undertakers and priests, none of it is ever going to make the deceased come back nor give them better access to God. A funeral might make a good show and boost the ego and all of that but in the last minutes it’s all hollow, even if all those who attend loved the deceased it makes no difference to what’s happened. Priests have no more Godly powers or knowledge about the ‘after life’ than anyone else.

The pomp and circumstances that surround burials is also a load of old tosh, even though we have to be buried if only for the sake of hygiene reasons.  If our loved ones die in a fire, get drowned at sea, eaten by a lion, frozen to death climbing a mountain, etc, does it mean that because we didn’t give them a funeral they will never go to God? Of course it doesn’t. God and life is far bigger than our tiny little minds and those of organised religions whose sole purpose is to keep themselves afloat and whose reason detre is often no more than fighting amongst themselves and bickering about points of religion than being good and Godly people.

Where love exists and it does for most people if the deceased loved you then the last thing they would have wanted is for those who are left to carry on being miserable and morning endlessly, which many do. It’s a gross insult to the memory of the bereaved to dress in black and look like some pathetic and outcast person in society, and it’s a mockery of the years that one spent lovingly with the bereaved whilst they were alive. This  two face attitude perpetuated wildly by Middle Eastern religions, although not exclusively is not only debased it serves no other purpose than gross selfishness, all the wailing, berating, screaming and the like shows how useless the culture really is and why they never move on in life.

Granted, when a loved one dies, no matter who it is it does create a void within, there are things one would like to have said and done, dreams shattered, life changed, but this has nothing to do with God, this is purely logistical and emotional and all to do with the self. And for those who don’t believe in God, the atheists and agnostics and anyone else in between, just make the best of it whilst you are here because when you die that’s your lot.

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15/07/2010 by admin.

Attitude is everything within our lives, it says who we are, it shows how we think and look upon life, it gives others a clues as to the character we have and hold within us and above all it’s our “Shop Window” to the world. For those who meet us for the first time our attitude transcends even the clothes we wear as those are transient garments, but our attitude is a permanent fixture, even if we are two faced and many are, both faces are never etched in stone and we are always vulnerable to both faces being shattered by a crisis or the truth.

One thing for sure is that we don’t like people with bad attitudes, we steer clear of them and whether we admire them as people for what they have done or purported to have done we don’t want to get too close to them as it makes us feel uneasy and less restful. Bad attitudes “stink” and it follows that the negative emotions that tend to rule the roost and fuel bad attitudes have a deeper meaning in the character that the person holds. Anger, greed, avariciousness, jealousy, resentfulness, pride, arrogance, ego, etc all allude to a disharmony that shows itself to everyone around, even if at times the perpetrators of such emotions are blind to them, often coming from someone who has a lack of self esteem.

In business our positive attitude can work wonders, it elevate us, boost our potential, it can make us liked and popular, it can enhance our ability to communicate well and be far more efficient than those that just plod along seemingly doing a good job but in reality are stopping others from doing their jobs well because others haven’t a clue as to what the total picture holds. A positive attitude opens up doors, it gives a better clarity of direction and purpose, it keeps hope as the prime target to reach for even when all goes awry and trouble hits big time. It transcends the negative always seeking out potential and making the best of what’s available as opposed to seeing the negative side of events then losing sight of any way out. Positive attitude in business is success in a package all of its own.

In our personal lives a positive attitude keeps us healthy, it automatically enhances our immune system, it keeps our relationships on the level, it keeps love which is the key ingredient in life firmly where it ought to be right in front of the queue. It allows us to see with compassion the faults and failures of others without being super judgmental, it also allows us the see the bad and indifferent and keep well away. Positive people on average receive better help and opportunities than those who have bad ore negative attitudes and receive in abundance what they give out, a lowness of mind and life itself.

A positive attitude gives us a heightened status in the mind of others even if we can’t speak a common language, the mere actions and body language makes others want to help us as they feel they would wish to be helped if events happened to them in similar circumstances. The unsung and unwritten immediacy of positive attitudes rings loud and clear, and the human condition feels gratified and warm in such company. A positive attitude is not selfish either it exudes degrees of help and compassion without being a push-over or being taken advantage of, a positive attitude is everything to our lives. The fabulous aspect of a positive attitude if you yet haven’t got one and wonder why others always seem to be better off or more ebullient in life is that it’s FREE.  So if you are missing out, stop blaming life and everyone else in it, turn on the positive attitude switch (it’s the same as the negative attitude switch, just the opposite position) and watch life change for the better. But don’t kid yourself that you are positive then moan or sigh because that puts you firmly back on the “reset” course to where you were before, dull, lazy, selfish and not that nice a person…

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14/07/2010 by admin.

Being thoughtful is not just thinking about others or they about you, it’s a way of living life, it’s in many ways a holistic part of who you are and what your values are.  There are many views about those that are thoughtful, to some it’s a weakness of why would or should you do something for others when there’s no merit behind the thought. For others it’s part of either a Godly life where love reigns or that one is a member of humanity and enjoys by and large fellow man. Even the most dastardly and religiously insane appreciate thoughtfulness although they dare not admit it as it tends to uncover their resolute flaws about being whom they purport to be.

Those that have degrees of thought and consideration towards others are usually well liked, trusted, admired and shown degrees of respect, whereas those that have little thought usually brandish the traits of selfishness, sullenness, lacking in humour, lacking in creativity and tend to be lonely as well as at times unstable. Being thoughtful also enhances thought and in turn elements of creativity because the mental approach to life is not always on the self but on others too and sharing and seeing joy on others faces or reactions and is indeed reward enough for many, again some will not see it like that but then it shows the kind of person they are.

Those that can show thoughtfulness in companies tend to get on better than those that don’t because they have an intrinsic ability to communicate well and do so because they can see the bigger picture over and above those that do the minimum and others are forever trying to find answers to what should have been copied or advised upon. Thoughtfulness between our friends and loved ones gives us a good feeling of being wanted and needed and similarly caring for those who are significant in our lives, although kindnesses and thoughtfulness extends to all. Thoughtfulness goes hand in hand with reliability and thoughts transcend the ‘what’s in it for me’ scenario and again take into consideration the thoughts, feelings and welfare of others too. We can like someone yet not respect them, we can respect someone and yet not like them such is the way our characters and mindset sees others and how we interact, but when we are in a mess we would have no hesitation in asking for help from the thoughtful ones even if we don’t particularly like them as we would inherently know deep down that our chances and options of getting help are far greater.

Most people get a buzz of some sort from helping others, that mutual feeling of giving highlights our abilities to commune well with others and even if we can’t speak a common language our actions are universal and that’s an achievement in itself that strangers by and large appreciate others and their plight or wants or needs. Thoughtfulness should be a natural element of consideration and forward thought, if however it has an ulterior motive such as “if I do this they will do that or hopefully do what’s anticipated” then divisive thoughts is tantamount to being insincere and selfish.

There is real power in our thought, it can stack against us or it can elevate us to higher platforms. Most people would wish to think they are thoughtful however if asked would try to quickly identify an example, whereas the truly thoughtful have nothing to prove and quietly go about their day just being thoughtful. One quickly picks up on the traits of others and how they deliver their actions and see if they coincide with their words, often there is a discrepancy and that’s where one can spot a mile away what makes people tick.  

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14/07/2010 by admin.

We all have aspirations in life, some are rather grand and even far-fetched, others may be somewhat more timid and belay our own abilities is getting the best of what’s on offer and utilising our own talents and knowledge. Most people undervalue themselves in life because they have picked up on what others have said or commented on, and as such have taken such comments to heart. However the bottom line is we walk our own pathway no one else, it’s us who thinks and feels and assimilates life no matter who is around us or the conditions in which we live seem or appear to dictate otherwise.

Life doesn’t let us down even if it doesn’t go our way, life is inert in as much it’s far better things to think of and do than include us, life goes its own way, it has done for millions of years and will continue to do so after we have all been dead and buried for even more millions of years. With that in mind we have to make the best of what’s available and whom we are right now, because if we don’t then we are going to fore-go what life we have got left and never fulfil that ‘happiness trail’ within us, that ‘happiness trail’ that’s always there.

Our views on life are thus so important, and life for the thick n’ stupid will always be one of what others have got and never about what they have achieved, which doesn’t mean that many earning large amounts of money have intelligence one only has to look at footballers and celebrities in general to see that. But for everyone in life “happiness” and a degree of accomplishment no matter at what magnitude is essential.  Our mental health is paramount to securing stability and with stability we have clarity of vision and clarity of decision too, with clarity we have purpose and overall compassion and enhanced degrees of wisdom, something that’s so precious that money can’t name a price for it.

How we view life and live it regardless of the trappings around us makes the road either bumpy or smooth, but it’s us that views life for what it is, not reacting to conditions or circumstances, and that’s where many fall down and often can’t even let go of their past life to move forwards on to where they are going to end up. Thus many drag their old life with them as an excuse so if failure looms large they can always latch on to the past as an excuse, it’s pathetic but many do such things.

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