Archive for September, 2010

HOW TO LOVE DIFFICULT PEOPLE

Thursday, September 30th, 2010

How we get on in life is crucial to how we enjoy life, our attitude is everything to enjoyment no matter what our circumstances. We can have little and be happy  or a lot and not be happy, only we can be happy for ourselves, everything we ever do lives within our minds, our past, the present and tomorrow where we will be stepping into it. Nobody can be happy for us, even if they are happy because we are happy, it’s only us that can feel and experience our own happiness. But how we interact with life is a combination of who we are, our attitude and what our perceptions are at the same time. We can always come across seemingly difficult people but our reaction to same is critical in how we deal with them and move forward. Some people are naturally obtrusive, some are very easy going and others well it depends upon how they feel such is their pathetic fickleness. But unless we are of open mind and spirit we are going to be our own worst enemy, forever getting upset and peeved about how others or situations are as opposed to how we would like them. Over 98% of people we ever meet are not important to us and then there are degrees of importance in the final two percent, so instead of letting ego, anger, greed, jealousy, arrogance, avariciousness etc come to the for and allow our emotions to speak rather than our logic then we will always disadvantage ourselves, and fall short of what we deserve or aspire to in life. Everyone is different and those that get on in life will do so because they “think” about situations and console themselves that their brain functions properly and that their “self esteem” is in tact too, for if it isn’t we will always be at loggerheads with life and everyone in it. 

Our “love walk” in life is crucial, and by our “love walk” it’s that part of us that ‘sees’ life for what it is even if we disagree or don’t like or condemn aspects of it. We don’t take prisoners nor captives, we don’t harbour evilness and we see the best as far as we can in others and understand those that can’t or don’t do any of those things and just go through life as if in a permanent muddle. Being positive in mind opens up our thought process to unlimited and varied aspects of positivity and opportunities, it lifts the fog of mayhem and  allows us to see beyond. Those with a negative heart dwell solely on the problems not the solutions and their lies a big difference and ability to both enjoy life and be happy. The downtrodden get little help yet those with a good attitude get far more help, people like to help people but not the disgruntled nor the foul mouthed nor the lazy and those steeped in attitudes that aren’t conducive to a good life. Communing with fellow man is part of the human condition and as such we need to place a great deal of importance upon it all.

Loving difficult people is placing the self in a position where one is emotionally cushioned from their negativity, so if one has to interact and take instruction it’s met with least resistance and least degree of contact. We all have something to bear in life and at times that becomes apparent when meeting with others or those we don’t like, but it doesn’t comprise of making a scene out of it or becoming disgruntled. Playacting or playing the “put upon” role only highlights that you are in fact useless and ego lead, it also tells others to keep away as you are not that nice and possible unstable too, which causers embarrassment to others, and no-one likes that. Moving on, getting over what we have had to deal with, putting it where it belongs in the past and moving to pastures and opportunities that have something both real and tangible to offer. Idle and repetitive conversations gets you nowhere so it’s imperative that thoughts pertaining to the future are not bogged down or weighted with past events otherwise life will be sluggish and banal.

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WHERE DID THE LIGHT SWITCH COME FROM?

Wednesday, September 29th, 2010

There’s a lot of talk currently about evolution, and life itself as religion can’t tell you much as it is man made, God isn’t. No one created God but man created religion so after a time it all wears a bit thin, and with our rapid development into science the more we learn the more everyone seems to want to know where it all started. There are exponents dotted around the globe who like Richard Dawkins are full of their own excrement when it comes to their take on the Disney style theories of pre- “big bang” evolution, but they haven’t cracked where it ALL began, not just wax lyrical about second base but pure origin. We can pinpoint endless and worthy breakthroughs in science and technology but Dawkins and his crony peers who have contributed to nothing in life other than their take on it, can’t hand on heart say where it all came from, and as none believers they are only on planet earth for a short while – as they firmly believe they are an evolutionary mistake, so when they die that’s it, and probably for the best too. As for the others well the bigger picture holds what scientists can’t and don’t grasp, so to them death is not the final stop. Even some of the “others” unfortunately won’t be going anywhere as they are worshiping a man made facade entitled God, (their version of God) but as it’s full of the opposite of love (hatred) then the devil awaits their demise to fuel his endless fires, all sooner than later one hopes.

The media however loves controversy, it’s what makes it tick, it’s what fuels their thirst for negativity an almost desperate drug like dependence to furnish their output with anything that has a hint of the macabre and of course sells, selling becoming more important that truth, love and the love of fellow man. One of the aspects of man currently is its lack of ‘mind power’ and of course love, love being the corner stone of mankind, even Dawkins needs degrees of that to keep life somewhat sane, worthwhile and meaningful, for if everyone deserted him life would not be so pleasant and gross instability would ensue. Without love the human condition would turn to be a society of drones, mental health would be a far bigger issue than it is today, and that too is on the rise alarmingly. Of course the mind is incredibly powerful and we don’t need scientists to prove anything to believe that, nor do we need them to say God looks after everyone on the planet, as the answer is NO HE DOESN’T, where did you get that notion from (It’s not in the bible or any other religious books – just an athiest constuct). The conduit to God is belief and love, and over 85 percent of the global population don’t have either in any significan’t quantities to exercise their ability to commune with Him, so bang goes that theory of “Why didn’t he stop the air crash” or “the mental Muslim terrorist plots” and the like. For those who have seen and understand the concept of God and not some parrot fashion prose churned out by lunatics who call themselves preachers, imams or rabbis (none have a direc line to God) or whatever their version is titled, then most religions will produce defacto failures in the God concept. 

The enormity of space and the space time continuum still remains a mystery despite various hypothesis to the rescue. Where does it all start, where do the fractals finish, and if we are mistakes in life what’s the purpose and what’s the point, and why is it that the human condition at large cares for others, when their life cycle is so transient. Why do we have to endure evil and opressive religions when man is supposedly love based, and why are atheists and agnostics becoming so vociferous about preaching about nothing, is there something missing in their little brain cells. Much of what science is finding or proving with degrees of credibility with were posted hundreds of years ago, but at that time scientists hadn’t the ability to scientifically measure what was required to prove the theories. The mind is still a place of undiscovered potential even though biologically and metaphysically much can be measured and detected and monitored today, even with almost predictable success. The deep inner thoughts that we have are our amazing strengths and amazing abilities over and above pedestrian thought. It’s the general belief that if “we can’t” we can’t, but to the enlightened who transcend many platforms and divisions in life, ability and mind ability is incredibly powerful. Today’s ‘farming out’ or almost sub contracting elements of self thought with the belief that others can ‘do it better’ only renders the mind to a more inept stage of uselessness and devised thought, all of which has nothing to do with getting help or assistance.      

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PERCEPTIONAL VIEWS OF THE SELF

Thursday, September 16th, 2010

We all have to some extent an ego and a degree of pride, we have too ideas about how things should or shouldn’t be, and we have ideas about ourselves also, put them all together and we have an opinion on what life and those in it are about and also what we are about too. The varying degrees of human nature makes the breadth of whose who and what’s what very broad, and with regards people we can see, the grossly arrogant and egotistical to the feint, timid and someone lacking in self esteem. However in between we can get a mix of all of those attributes and they can almost counter act each other in placement and form. We can get an actor or actress who can play a ruthless part on the screen but off screen where they have to make up their lines they are almost rubbish as people. Similarly we can get those who are bombastic and loud yet when shouted at they cower down as if to crumble on the spot, and we probably know variations that others have in between. Perceptions of life are important as is our attitude for both of those things go hand in hand and if they are too far from the norm then we constantly lose it as far as a stable mental approach to life is concerned.

Two men called Dunning & Kruger found that people who have little knowledge systematically thought that they know more than others who have much more knowledge and often those that have a great deal of knowledge don’t acknowledge the fact because they perceive that others don’t think they have, almost a lack of self esteem. We often get both these types of people inter-relating with us in our daily life and it’s how we apportion who we are in relation to either type or even levels of both in between. We need to walk or pathway and we need also to acknowledge who we are as people never mind what others think or say in general as they could be harbouring a whole load of negative issues themselves. Of course if everywhere you go you get a negative response then it may be pertinent to find out why, but many of the greatest inventors and scientists have had to endure the wrath of an ignorant public to prove them all totally and utterly wrong. And their discoveries have been a positive boon to mankind so again personal thought with regards the self needs to be self contained to allow it be nurtured and fed and watered by the self to see where it’s about to go, sometimes not far but who knows?

The bottom line is that we must have some idea about who we are and why people treat us like they do, or why we have lots of friends or have very few if any other than acquaintances, often the latter is a self confusion because the reality of not actually having a friend isn’t a subject people like to admit to, and rightly so although it’s an indictment about themselves. We can see a mile off ego’s and degrees of arrogance as it stands out like a sore thumb over and above the knowledge and self reassurance we can have in our work ethic or knowledge of a certain subject or aspect of life, all of that is actually a pleasure to watch or listen to as it’s akin to professionalism. Those who aspire often place themselves on a pedestal of their own making and unfortunately they are the only ones who can see themselves aspiring to whatever it is they are aspiring to be or be seen as. The trouble with negative emotions and virtues is that they are hollow and quickly get tarnished, and once one has been rumbled it’s so difficult to come to terms with what is failure, in that one’s perception has not been on a course of reality, although their course for themselves was probably very real.

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IMPENDING DOOM

Wednesday, September 15th, 2010

The power of thought, reality, circumstances and life itself can at times all meld into a “oneness” that throws us off key. It can decimate logical thought and take a hold of our  perceptions to an extent that we lose track of what’s what and reality is from there on an illusion of the self and then anything can happen. Our minds once let loose can go in any direction it likes and the trouble with this is that we lose largely stability, and when we lose stability we lose the plot. All very down to earth bog standard stuff, it’s not rocket science and it’s not intellectual banter either it’s very straight forward and simple, yet it’s all so, so common. Our nights become sleepless and then the days drag on with bouts of tiredness and then a loss of concentration and so it all goes on, books can be written of the manifestations from there onwards, and they probably are. The thought of what is ahead or possibly isn’t ahead can be of grave concern for we like to feel that what is ultimately ahead is overall better than what we have now, even if the now is good. Our attitude to life and our perceptions play a vital part in how we see the future, even if we are currently going through some “stuff” which can and does have some subliminal effect, but with a relatively strong will we can push it all to one side and march on victoriously leaving the doubts at bay, which is where they should be. Going forward is the only way to go with a positive attitude no matter what events are taking place, one thing is sure and that circumstances are always subject to change, always, we are the constant and even then we advance en-route and whether we take stock of it or not we take on board what we have experienced even if we don’t readily acknowledge it all.

Impending doom is a phenomenon which is an aberration of thought based upon what’s happening at the present and projections for the future sometimes as an extrapolation of what we have experienced and facts as they are, but everything in life is subject to change and even short term seemingly unmovable areas can in light of new facts and figures and circumstances be removed, changed or interpreted differently. Our belief system can play a vital part of our reliance on the good things in life to carry us through, if we believe in God then for many who do really believe it can uplift them way beyond science and any psycho-babble which is grounded in staid doctrine and can be its own worst enemy. The power of thought can elevate the mind to a level where one can see both opportunities and ways out and permutations and give rise to an understanding far above logic itself, and it can be the embodiment of of manifestation also, which again transcends the dullness of psycho-babble as there is no creativity within its boundaries.  But it’s important that one believes in God and not religion, and no one created God but man created religion, so if you believe in say Catholicism or Islam or Orthodox Judaism nothing will happen as it’s all out of your own hands and down to your belief that it’s the will of God, but it’s not you have free will so your destiny is within your hands and if you give it to God then it absolves you of anything for yourself, because God helps those who help themselves, it’s your earthly manifestation that you have to come to terms with. The conduit of Love must prevail to be in contact with God and as such most worshipers only have conditional love within them, thus their contact with God never materialises, despite their plight being of a serious even if “all about me” in nature.  

Impending doom can overtake one’s daily life in that it subsumes life itself to an extent that it stops any kind of enjoyment and also precludes creativity so that ways of going forward become somewhat robotic in nature and one misses out on the nuances and textures and pointers that could eliminate or alleviate what it is that one is becoming stressed over. Much of today’s stress is self caused and people getting worked up over things not of their own creation or ability to overcome or solve.  Whilst it’s good to be steadfast in life and walk your own pathway and not that of others ideas and thoughts, it is at the same time  expedient to be able to be flexible like the bamboo and sway in the breeze so as not to be so rigid and brittle as to snap at the first gust of wind, thus allowing one to bounce back with great gusto and vigour after any stormy situation. It’s this resolve that can overcome the foreboding, the mind getting beyond itself and creating scenarios that especially at bed time take a walk on the wild side and often not challenged by the self so one falls into the trap of going with the flow, the flow being a fabricated stance on what the mind has created. Life is a series of plateaus and peaks and a few troughs too, that is life and it’s up to us to enjoy the whole aspect of life without great serious overtones otherwise we get dragged down by the weight of our own heaviness of accumulated negativity. Negativity is like driving a heavy truck in the dark, positivity is the opposite, it’s driving that well powered car with both lights and a sat nav too, that is the great difference. That difference can be a fine as our mentality and perception of life, nothing magical just that so it’s imperative we keep a lightness at all times to keep those lights bright to show the way forward and have that feeling of being in charge.

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BURNING THE ILLUSION

Monday, September 13th, 2010

Much of our life is played out by what we know and how we live with that knowledge, how we enjoy our lives is something down to us and our attitude and mentality, it has to be as  no one else can think or feel for us no matter how close they are or well meaning. Within our environment there are people, authorities, governments, religions, organisations, societies, charities, and the like all of whom have a doctrine of their own and that doctrine dictates what they do and how they do it. Most religions have staid, outmoded and defunct doctrines that should carry a sign saying “This Religion Carries A Health Warning” in what it’s participants expect or receive from God is absolutely nothing at all. They are no better off than atheists or agnostics who have none of the baggage, guilt and oppression, other than the fact that agnostics and atheists will die without further cause. What we build up in our minds is so often empty and hollow in that we frequently react or act in accordance to what we think others will think, which is silly. Whose life are you living your own or that of others?  

There are two main types of people in life leaders and followers, it’s the followers who tend to suffer the greatest by making aspects of life more topical than they are and commenting on what’s being bounced around with regards the press and media as if its all final, cut and dried. However, where life really takes a hold is within one’s mind, and it’s there where we either accept or reject aspects of life pertinent to us. It’s there where we come to terms with ourselves and others and it’s there where we physically live our lives, not outside of our minds,  for the environment in which we live is but a prop or setting for us to play out what we do. We have within our minds the makings of us or the downfall of whom we are, it’s all there slotted into our micro-circuits and fused together by bio-chemical and electro-chemical links that fire off at each other to form our ongoing life patterns. What others have or don’t have is none of our business, what others may or may not do has little if any bearing upon the credentials of what we do, we are in effect a product of ourselves and as such are unique even if others are similar, they are never the same.

A lot of what we do, either culturally, historically, family driven or orientated, handed down rituals or ways of doing things, folklore, etc, is but a fallacy of the mind, and we are not to be snared into such things to appease other people or situations or circumstances at the detriment of ourselves such as “honour killings” and “forced marriages” etc, which still goes on today. The illusion of what life is all about can differ enormously as there is no defined blue print that incorporates history and tomorrows technology, hence it’s all new ground and it’s where religions have to make up what they think yesterday’s teachings equate to tomorrows developments, and the short answer is that the theologians and especially the religious leaders aren’t that bright, and their followers are even less bright and there lies a problem of its own making. Living our own lives, whatever they may be involves a great deal of love from both sides of the fence. Parents allowing children to live the way “they” want and not how their parents want, and the understanding that children of whatever age understand that their parents are in reality selfishly inclined probably though their own upbringing too to want what they want for their children. The illusion continues. 

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BEING THANKFUL

Friday, September 10th, 2010

It’s important to be thankful even if it sounds on the outside something quite trivial and not very solid in as far as advancing the self, but it is actually the root of obtaining a degree of real happiness, purpose and solidity in moving forward. No matter who we are and what we possess we can all find something that’s not quite right or jars within us, but it’s when that feeling gets out of hand that we really get into trouble and it can become almost a repetitive subject seeking imperfections in life and thus not enjoying the ride. How we view life has a lot to do with our self esteem and our perspective on life and ourselves. Some people are almost always happy regardless of their circumstances and some are almost embittered and miserable not being able to let go and enjoy what is around them including others who they look upon with degrees of disdain. We may not have what we want in life, or maybe we feel we have fallen short of what we should have or had had in life at a certain point, but what we do have we need to be grateful for and thankful also. It’s both silly and foolhardy to compare ourselves with less fortunate people as it changes nothing, it’s just a topical comparison and serves no other purpose, even if we try to tell others how lucky they are compared to some. Similarly comparing what others have more than ourselves is but a comparison and doesn’t alter the position we are in either, so it will always throw out a negative difference then we start mentally equating why, how and all the other superfluous mind thoughts linked with age, ability, circumstances etc, etc, but that’s life and the more we think about such stuff the less we will move on to either achieve or obtain more for ourselves.

Mind talk is something we can control and if we don’t we are on a slippery road to nowhere. Lives are holistic and why some get ahead with seemingly little between their ears is just the way it transpires, it has nothing to do with our own plight, and as we know ‘fairness’ is neither a subject nor a topic as it has no base credentials and thus has no relevance at all. What does have relevance is what we are doing about moving on, and if we can’t put down a firm degree of being thankful as to where we are, and all that that entails then we will be climbing a very steep slope with no safety net. Being thankful can be applied to the friends we have, our health, what possessions we have, our knowledge, whatever it is to each individual, but if we are not thankful for those positive attributes we will start not to respect them and that will make us uneasy and eventually we will start to fall apart as life itself will seem not only fragile but chipped at the edges and ready to fall apart any moment. The road to where we need to be is at times veiled in mist and possibly fog, but never the less it’s still there, there is no reason why one must not travail the road ahead even with a foggy aspect, as long as we can move we need to keep onward moving. Once we stop that’s it, lethargy, tiredness and self lack takes over and if we aren’t that strong in our nature then we lose the lot. That’s the difference between those that make it on their own and those that make something but it’s because of others, decisions have to be made.

Being thankful gives us a degree of grace and strength,  it upholds without favour who we are and allows us to be lighter within our mind, it gives us a better purpose and it makes us want to do things for ourselves regardless of what those around us are doing or have achieved or got via whatever means. Being thankful stops jealousy in its tracks, it gives envy the cold shoulder and it stops endless wanton feelings for stuff which for the moment may be well out of our reach. Clarity of vision needs a clarity of presence otherwise everything becomes jumbled up in the mind and at times overtaken by emotions which hold no value to the deeds needed to be done to execute a positive way forward. Being thankful gives us a greater thought presence too, it stimulates the positive and the good side of ourselves which has a beneficial correspondence with others as feel we are more accessible and worthy of where we want to go. We need others in order to progress, we need others to respect us and feel that the reciprocation of friends and / work colleagues is genuine and not a short lives version of “what can I get out of them for my benefit”. Being thankful allows others to feel worthy of what they have done to help as they at times need similar help for whatever it is that’s of need at that time. We should never underestimate what we have within us and how it can affect us, if we are too headstrong then we ride roughshod over life and those in it and then we never ever get satisfaction mainly gross instability and a lack within.

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WHEN LIFE STARTS TO HURT

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

At times in life many arrive at what is virtually a Life Impasse in that all of a sudden everything appears to come to a grinding halt, the meaning and purpose and fluidity of life starts to pull heavily within the mind and one starts to reflect with a determined voracity that drags up one’s past life including all sorts or weird and unrelated events whereby one tries to piece them all together to form some sort of coherent picture. Once this happens the happiness trail starts to falter and one’s thoughts dwell on the morbid events of the past and the possible uneventfulness of the future, the inner desire to see positivity is all but thwarted and anything that tends to ‘raise the game’ is viewed with a degree of caution that it’s almost self defeating. All this can and at times and in some instances does lead to depression of the self generated type. We are the product of what we feed ourselves so for example if we are fat it’s not down to our condition or tablets even if there is an effect as such, no one gets fat on fresh air, it’s in direct relation to our calorific intake. Similarly if we feed our minds with rubbish then we will eventually manifest an attitude which has a base parameter of rubbish in it, we will see much of life as both flippant and oppressive such is the nature of pathetic content taken in. The power of the mind is just so great that if we abuse it and if we turn it in on ourselves and instead of doing ourselves favours we are harming our own infrastructure and start to develop negative traits and idiosyncrasies. Where the mind goes the body follows, so if we are not quite as we should be mentally then our body also follows that route and we manifest all sorts of psychosomatic illnesses or manifestations that are a result of our depleted mind functionality with regards thinking.

Dwelling on the problem is the worst thing anyone can do as it stave’s off ever finding the solution, which separates the entrepreneur from the plodders, those that don’t make that distinction and forever go  around in circles wishing, hoping and thinking that they will meet someone or something will happen all of a sudden to change things for the better, keep dreaming it won’t happen that way. The self is the begining and end of life, it’s what we do for ourselves or what we “put out” into the wide world that opens up the endless possibilities of chance happenings. Chance happenings are not to be associated with luck even if one perceives that events changed because of luck, even luck can’t be manifested is there isn’t a base for it to latch on to, we will never win the Lottery if we don’t do it. We are responsible for changing our own fortunes and that only happens with a positive mind, a negative mind is one that chooses to see the bad rather than the good and thus is forever in a state of perplexed conjunction and embroiled mind talk which never gets anywhere other than produce feeling of lowness, lethargy and everything else associated with dullness, it’s not rocket science here, we all know what’s what.

What really makes a difference is our attitude, that’s something that we can control even though many choose not to and prefer to hide behind a smoke screen to solicit sympathy as a way of consoling themselves as to why things haven’t changed for the better. But what ever one tries to hide behind or excuse or manifest scenarios, the truth is that if life sucks it’s still down to you, no one else nor circumstances, it’s perhaps a greater truth that you haven’t got the ability or desire to just step out from where you are and thus just rest on potential thoughts as opposed to a reality of trying to really move forward. There are always solutions to move towards the exit, there are always routes and roads leading to where you would like to be, but whether the bottom line instinct is strong enough to cast caution to the wind and go for it is yet another matter. But whatever it is a reality check is the most important aspect one must face and not continually searching and hoping for that will never produce a positive result. Being true and honest will at least allow where you are to be more pleasant even if it’s not at least initially palatable. Decisions are sometimes monumental at other times relatively mild in nature and context, whatever those decisions are one must stick to the reality of whether it needs to be resolved now or hold on tight for the road ahead and perchance to live the rich rewards that are all possible, but it’s your choice.

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TIME TRAVEL

Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

How good are you at travelling, do you like it, revel in it, fear it, get frightened at the thought of it,or anything in between. I’m fortunate in that I love it and have been round the world so many times zig zagging like a bluebottle flying around the living room, seen so many places and experienced so many new and to me exciting and interesting things that it’s almost too numerous to mention, and all of this travelling where applicable First Class too. Talk about boys and their toys, well, I was in my element even enjoying the not so fabulous moments of sleeping rough in desserts, jungles and dodging the bullets of war torn areas, I loved every second. As a foodie too I was enthralled at being able to eat a range of foods and dishes that I certainly would not have been privy to had I not left my home shores and ventured into the great wide world, although I shudder at times as to what I have actually eaten.  One of the great things that I have experienced in life is how good people are, take away the three scourges of modern day existence, politics, religion and the news, and before you you have a blank canvass of what’s good and great about humanity in general. How caring and humble and warm people can be in all walks of life if you meet them half way, and how those in authority will exercise their clout to enable you to cross boundaries to continue your journey when all seems to have failed. The commonality of Time Travel is still here today, but it’s mainly in situ, not so evident in the towns and suburbs which attracts the dross and detritus  from all over the place who see everything as fair game and endlessly talk about their “home town or country” yet offer nothing within their new environment other than seek what it can offer them.  

Much of modern life is now sanitised and far flung place are not so far flung anymore, readily accessible by those who have gone before and organised, set up, laid on and provided at least a modicum of communicational comfort for those who like to feel they are intrepid travelers and get a buzz from that thought, but deep down would immediately panic should all go terribly wrong. It’s not so different today with corporate businesses and the business men and women who fly on business to further their companies goals in creating more wealth. There’s nothing so daunting than complying with “Corporate Travel Policies” that brings up almost immediate frustration, anxiety, stress, tension and degrees of unfairness and in many cases their poorly paid positions, the companies almost deeming that such people are getting travel benefits as a perk. And within all the rules of class of travel, type of hotel, expenses restrictions, allowance restrictions, there is the more deliberate policies of “do you share a room or not” or do we place both men and women in the same hotel, or even worse the same floor to stop the potential of “travel infidelities” or room flitting just because it can happen and at times does. But it doesn’t stop there, both men and women make it worse for themselves, and the level and quality of travel “professional” dictates at times their potential of going astray. Women are possibly the worse in that they want to integrate and be accepted and everything else yet want women’s specific floors and dining areas and rooms and whatever else they deem is “their right” to be catered for. And in many cases the relevant hostelry groups have acceded by doing just that and tarting up the bathrooms with additional amenities and the like, it’s all good business. But men can be bloody stupid too, they can act laddish, and pathetic and be thoughtless so there exists a self made them and us, sharing a commonality of purpose.

Many professional travelling women who have high positions in business are savvy to what travel is all about and what “being away from home” psychologically brings and still remain fun, kind, very professional and successful, like-able and everything good and gracious and feminine, whilst some become very bitchy, rude, acerbic, cold, two faced and deem that it’s all unfair for women when they travel, in short nothing would please them because they would find fault with perfection. The male dominated market can have its downside too and be just so boring, listening to others tales often works faster than half a dozen sleeping tablets, they’ve seen it, been there, done that, that company has better perks, the airline is this n’ that, the hotel won’t upgrade me, and so it all goes on, yawning aleady. And heaven forbid one should share a room and have to put up with colleagues night time habits and sleeping routines, shudder, shudder, shudder. Of course it may have to be at times, but force majeur is not the same as company policy. The short answer is that people not under undue pressure work far more effectively, than those who do, rewarding someone gets better results than being frugal, (see the group directors incentives) happy people take ownership and want to “give back” where those under degrees of corporate mandates don’t find the need to justify more than they have to, it’s all back down to human nature. For being well looked after by my previous companies the results were astounding, as I felt I could go that extra 20 miles or more not the one, and was very well placed accordingly, until I went the extra 50 miles and worked for myself, but that’s not for all. But for others who were rated on a scale function as employees by a HR designated robotic level, well they may do a good job, but miss seeing the bigger picture and that’s where it all lies.

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LETTING GO

Friday, September 3rd, 2010

If we are not careful we can accumulate so much mental baggage about what we do, what we want, what we would like, what others have and we don’t, why are are like we are and why others are seemingly better (we never compare with those who have less), and so it all goes on. We have aspirations, and dreams and desires and the like and whilst none of these are bad in themselves if we are not careful they just pile up on  our “In Tray” and never get filed, updated or sorted. The trouble with thoughts is that they are just what they are, thoughts, and as such thoughts don’t contain criteria nor do they hold depth, they are but mind aberrations based upon certain bits of information that we have and as they have no demonstrative action to accompany them, we can think of anything then forget it all, or enhance it or custom it or do whatever we like, we have that luxury with thought. We can be so abstract with what we think that there at times isn’t anything logical about the end result. We can even hypothesize and take thought to another level, and couple our thoughts with our emotions and well anything can happen, we can even make ourselves depressed. It’s good at times to take our mind for a walk on the “wild side” it’s like a car it does it good to have a good run, and similarly our mind at times needs taking for a walk and getting rid of the dull repetitiveness that it can find itself in at times. Of course how we live our lives makes a difference to our thoughts, if we live a sedentary life then our thoughts usually reside in the sedentary more and possibly even to the extent of us becoming an armchair critic too, doing nothing but judging a everything.

After a while we can start to slow down both physically and mentally because the accumulated dross which has not been updated nor sifted out in our mind’s “in Tray” eventually takes its toll. We feel that there is so much to achieve and a lot of that stuff to achieve is not only now redundant but it has grown into another dimension of thought as we have either progressed or regressed in life. Being free from the detritus and the flotsom and jetsom that can accumulate and the dust which settles on it all does slow our mind processes down as we often take into account this large storage area of redundant information much of which has no bearing upon what we do today, it’s mainly consisting of yesterdays thoughts based upon yesterdays situations. Letting Go isn’t about giving up, nor is it about not having aspirations nor things we would like to have, it’s apportioning them to a real list of thoughts that if the opportunity came around you’d go for it, but until such times happen then you live life to the full without the constant reminder of the ‘wish list’. Letting go of emotions pertaining to unsavoury incidents or bereavement or work or redundancy etc, frees up the mind to seeing the “bigger picture”, and allows for happier times, fun, a lightness of life, one becomes more interesting rather than boring and in all life takes a turn for the better.

Letting go is like having a ship tied up in harbour, if you don’t untie it it will never get to sea the purpose for which it is made, and whilst some people are more gregarious in life, everyone needs to keep some degree of freedom within themselves otherwise they get cocooned into a place of small room and then thoughts ands feelings and indeed life becomes very isolated. Letting go also means making an effort to forgive, to stop the hatred,  to stop the feelings of retribution, to stop punishing yourself for events of the past, to live for what today is all about and allow tomorrow to come into your life fresh and new. Letting go isn’t moaning and endlessly complaining, it’s to have love within your heart and being pleased for others and not wanting them not to get on as it strikes a jealous or selfish note within. Letting go is not trying to control the world and life around you but just make sure that where you fit into the overall picture you are respected and not looked upon as a misfit or jaundiced soul that has no purpose. Letting go is like throwing the ballast out of your hot air balloon, and allowing it to rise so that it takes you out of the narrow ground base and from up above you can view the entire landscape, it makes that much of a difference.

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I’M SMILING YOU’RE NOT

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

Most of us like illusionists, we know it’s all trickery, but we like to be tricked in a nice way so that it gives us that “wow” factor feeling and the usual response that follows of “How did they do that”? It’s fun and it’s harmless, and it’s above all very entertaining, the slight of the hand, the misdirection of the eye, the redirection of glances and lots of mechanical trickery that eludes us as we gaze forward thinging we are going to spot how its done, yet we don’t. We don’t mind failing because we then believe that what was done is just so good that it deserves to be what it is, and all the best to the illusionist who game plays the act every day or twice at weekends. The feeling that a group of people see the illusion together and all are taken back brings on a shared commonality even with people you don’t even know, it brings if only for a moment a shared smile and a mutual understanding in all those smiles that what everyone has seen was good. In life things can be just so different, the smile that one person has is because they are of a pleasant disposition and always smiles, it’s their second nature and it reflects their personality even when they are faced with not so nice things they remain smiling. Then there is the person who smiles because they’ve just been privvy to a joke or something funny with a friend or colleage or are taking the ‘micky’ out of a mutual friend and it brings up a whole batch of stuff which is shared and comical. Then there is the person who smiles but has little if anything to smile about, the person whose world has almost come to an end emotionally because of the internal pressures that they are facing, and the only way they can get through each day is to smile because in doing so others reciprocate and that brightens up life and promotes a degree of that “feel good” factor, and in that state every little helps. We are not only illusionists ourselves we are masters of divisive content that we, like chameleons can change colour or stance depending on our surroundings.

The ambiguity of smiling can reflect or cover up a whole menagerie of things that are not only unknown to the onlooker but can be quite deceptive too, we assume therefore we react in a certain way, quite understandable yet so often we make mistakes based upon assumptions without knowing what it is we are really seeing. Whilst it’s good to smile at all times even at funerals, there are times where being expressive can allow us to be the person we are and allow our feelings to show through. For some however they constantly allow how they feel to show through, which is not as one would expect being totally true to yourself, it reflects a more sinister “I don’t care about anyone else” attitude and that they are not only selfish, their thoughts being, “all about me”, such people are a nusance and can’t be trusted as they are temperamental. We all have somewhere stashed in our minds an emotion that’s called humility, it’s becoming rather rare today, never the less like precious stones it has its place and it’s picked up by others as a gesture of an elevated form and distinction, if it isn’t then who are you talking to? Humility allows us to take the grace and comprehension of others and allow them to be who or what they are at face value without judging or trying to fathon out any hidden or alternative meanings, it furthermore allows the initial impact to allow the real truth surface, without us losing our cool, or without us being astounded or dumbfounded at how wrong we were. We were wrong because we assumed rather than awaited further information before building our picture of what we think, which could be a million miles away from what it really is.   

Smugness is not a positive attribute but showing a genuiness about yourself and those around you is appaudible, it gives rise to a heightened understanding and sees through the detritus of life, it breaks barriers, it percolates the the contorted aspects of others lives into a more simplistic undestanding and it stops the negativity of others rubbing off, it’s a none-stick coating the permeates one way and stops the dross getting through the other. People who smile nearly always get better treatment or are approached more often or get access more quickly because it resonates with those other human beings who can associate with the feeling and what it stands for. The irony is that people who can smile and who don’t need help are still more likely to be asked over and above those who really do need help because of the negativity that the latter subliminally put out which is over and above the help and assistance that they seek. The unsmiling are often complex and lazy and self centred and arrogant and mean and have some degree of ego problem or that things are unfair etc. Life is not fair, there’s nothing written in law or life itself that things need to be or are fair, fairness is what man attributes to himself, and it’s upheld by individuals in a collective called society, the unsmiling see it as a one way venture and thus are always at loggerheads with society. We can’t help how we look, and beauty denotes nothing other than a look, the real beauty of somone is from within not via the outer shell. It’s what’s within that element that comes from the brain that makes life what it is. It may be that if life isn’t what it is to our way of thinking, but it could just be you you who needs to shape up and smell the coffee.

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