Archive for November, 2010

WHERE DOES LOVE LIVE

Monday, November 22nd, 2010

Life is a journey, not the “New Age” variety of “well it happens for a reason” or any of that mindless rubbish although some of our actions do cause events to happen for definite reasons, but the “bigger picture”  is that life is fluid even for the most dull and solitary person. Live is constantly evolving, evolution takes into account both birth and death all at the same time, it fosters decay and growth all at the same time, and it favours no one whatsoever, it cares not about whether we live or die or suffer, life is what it is, it’s a platform upon which we have to make our own way. The stupidity and regressive and almost evil ways of some religions cause untold hardship and devastation to millions of people whereas it should help, promote and enhance their life to allow happiness, joy and love to flourish, over and above the cheap rhetoric of empty and hollow statements. Reality is a great leveller of truth in that it sees the lies and self devised facades that man creates to try and ‘hold’ everything together, it never ever works. Looking at life where the west despite its faults progresses whereas the rest of the world still struggles to forever catch up and still harbours a massive dichotomy of those that have education and millions of peasants that live around the corner who haven’t a clue about life and just survive. But life isn’t fair, it never has been nor will it ever be so, there is nothing written in life anywhere that says it is fair, fairness and morality are man made concepts and then only implemented by the few, again predominantly the Western nations, but that’s even getting out of hand whereby the “I have my rights” brigade, the moronic politically correct imbeciles have almost legalised criminality in the process.  

So within all this “Where Does Love Live”? Why is it that some people are fraught with endless distress and mental discomfort almost all their lives and others seemingly have a better ‘lot’ and understanding. Why is it that Eastern Europeans, South Asians and South Americans and West Africans have the biggest incidents of selling their children or allowing them into prostitution more than anywhere else? (And one of the greatest love bonds is between mother and child). That some religions still look down on women and treat then as almost worthless creatures, which still happens to millions of women, despite those that have broken free of that structure. It’s very easy to talk about love when one is fed and watered and has nice clothes and MP3 and Blu-ray players, and iPhones loaded with the latest music, and meets ones friends in Starbucks, or go out for a nice meal with friends and enjoys the freedom of the society they live in. Cultures are often the biggest culprits and bane on today’s growing society, wrapped in historical failures and ideologies that modernity has no truck with nor is it compatible. For people to relate to culture as an “identity” of the past is like having to go down to the river for water when you have pure running water in your own home, it’s Stoic and narrow mindedness. Identity is where you are now, not of the past, you weren’t part of the past, ever, even if your history emanates from it, you are here now, you past starts from your yesterday not that of old folk tales and a world which was different in every respect. Cultures are mind concepts, everyone who holds on to the past certainly wants today’s modern drugs to cure them, yesterdays isn’t any good. So where does love live in all this, it does, but it’s thwarted by the stupidity of narrowness and a loss as to who you are as a person. People even fight over cultures and worse still religious cultures too that have no other meaning than what has been self created, and are nothing to do with God. People clinging on to culture as if it provides substance for them, it provides nothing but ideological content, and whilst their is nothing wrong with understanding the past and even celebrating the colourful rituals of the past of enjoyment and pseudo purpose at the end of the day it’s today that feeds you, clothes you, provides you with modern medicine, houses you, and all the rest, not a mind concept that’s a legend and not a reality.

Within all this where does love lie, what does it mean, and can we do without it. The first thing is that a humanoid based society is definitely love based even if there are those who choose to override it, and many do, never the less its ingrained deep within, it’s an intrinsic part of us, it’s what has kept by and large society the world over together despite the ego’s of despots, evil negative religions, ideologies, and gross ignorance of uneducated people, which accounts for many. Without love people fragment, become mentally unstable, stop thinking logically and start the roads to terrorism, without love we have no purpose, no future, nothing to look forward to nor desire to create towards. All the greatest creations stem from love, the desire to find out, something many religions want to hold back on, yet those that preach such are only too willing to accept dubious money to enhance their lives. Love is the biggest industry there is, it’s the world over people finding people, even if it’s a pleasure zone for some it’s still that desire to find another human being for empathy regardless of its merit that one can’t get elsewhere. Without love life is nothing, and those that survive on selfishness, greed, hate, arrogance, always suffer in the long term, they usually end up mentally exhausted at their constant battle to get their own way and in the process lose what it is really like to love and live at the same time. Love never leaves us ever, but having authority over our thoughts we can override it and allow negative emotions to take presidence, cultures and societies are aspects that fuel such thoughts and thus those societies are always backward, although in time they do evolve but it’s a slow process.

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TRANSFORMATION OF THE SELF

Saturday, November 20th, 2010

There are so many books written today about Self Help, written by those on therapy (all about life and failure), Transcendental Meditation, (lazy and lost people), Guru’s rambling on about life and yet haven’t done a day’s work in their lives, about Spiritual Consciousness, (massive hangover), Finding God (he was never lost), Getting in Touch With Your Inner Self, (what have you been doing up until now), acknowledging your “feminine side” or “masculine side” (latent drag queens), and so it goes on. Psychologists and psychiatrists have over the years had a field day of looking up their own rectums and seeing if at the end of it life still exists, and in the process gotten used to the dank environment of negativity that they predominantly dwell in and within themselves have an overwhelming problem concerning the word “why” and resolution to it.  There’s a market for it all however, and there are those who for some reason seem to feel that life could be better than what it is if they could just find what it is that they are missing. Such people are either already screwed up or have lost the plot or they are predominantly single and lonely and just can’t seem to make a connection with life or those around them or indeed make any tangible relationship with anything or anyone. Their all too frequent stares and glazed expressions and peculiar responses to what others would just take for granted sets them way out above the – dare I say it  – yes I dare, the ‘norm’, whatever the ‘norm’ is, and already there will be those getting hot and flustered as to what the ‘norm’ really is, well, it’s probably doesn’t include them to start with. But for those who have a life, i.e. they are not glued to the media news, they don’t follow the fickle aspects of celebrities and how stupid they can really get, one doesn’t take everything as ‘gospel’ that anyone says about whatever it is they have to speak about, and one doesn’t believe the rhetoric of politicians in their eternal task of trying to convince ‘everyone’ that they are right.

The transformation of the self is almost a ‘coming of age’ in that it’s that sudden understanding and inner peace to do with a feeling of ‘knowing’ even if you really can’t translate it and put it into words. It’s an overall or homogeneous feeling that you can ‘see’ for what its all worth the good, the bad and the indifferent and it no longer bothers you even if you intrinsically know deep down that some aspects are totally wrong. Being able to ‘see’ life and what bothers so many and why some do what they do, allows you to stand back and feel the real breeze of life, that almost silent freshness that’s all around us that we are apt to ignore preferring to cloud our mind with minutiae of worthless detail and illusions of self importance over and above what is really important. People are making inordinate amounts of money running courses about the “inner self” and “happiness” and all the rest, and of course there are those who are so pathetic they believe it’s all “out there” for them to access when if the idiots only realised it’s already within them, but they are entitled to be stupid and at least going to the courses gets them out of the house even if it does mean mixing with other “oddballs” when they get there. Oddballs always attract oddballs and they tend to do the rounds as if it’s a ritual or “rite of passage” for them to do and very often takes the place of what a real relationship would be. Of course they’ll rarely ever get a relationship of any worth as they just can’t “let go” and give, hence there is this “single” phenomenon of people doing the circuit with other single people, nothing wrong with it, it’s just the way it is, but they often self isolate themselves and rarely know they are doing it, backing it all up with excuses, but everyone else notices why.

If one feels that they are out of sync with life or life is out of sync with them then it’s purely and simply down to your attitude, life won’t change and it’s viewed by billions every day all from their own perspectives and from vastly different circumstances. If the “resonance” or “vibe” isn’t good then it’s you that is not in harmony with life definitely not the other way around. You have to make the effort and not the excuses which is an all too easy cop out. It matters not what effort you make but effort is paramount in breaking through the invisible barrier that makes you feel like you do, mistakes are par for the course and only help to provide roughage with the grist in eventually dismantling that segmented wall that stops one feeling that life is good in all its glory despite the conditions. You can have your own theories on life, you can believe what others ramble on about but at the lest resort it’s you who has to come to terms with who you are and life and no one else nor anyone else’s theories or take on life. A positive mind can change the values, feelings, thoughts, circumstantial effects on the self in an instant, our mind has that ability without any pain or consternation. All the barriers we ‘see’ for ourselves are self created even if there are hurdles in front of us, the magnitude and our ability to climb over them or transcend them rests with us, no one else, no matter what we have to do.  In short life is all about us and how we engage with it and not about the problems or environment or anything else that we can’t always change. We can always change ourselves, which is often the biggest stumbling point for many as they have this illusion that there are those “out there” that have answers, they may have some, but it’s still YOU that has to effect the change.

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EMPATHY STRUCTURES

Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

In order to get along in life we need to have an empathy with it otherwise we either just play “lip service” to what we are doing or go through the motions almost robotically to get done what we have to do because we know it has some meaning for us, either way our heart isn’t in it and because of that what we do rarely has any degree of “wow factor” which accounts for many people’s lives. Then everyone steps back almost shocked and in awe and says “I don’t know why my life is as dull as it is” or “I don’t know things don’t seem to go my way” and so on. Even the best meal in the world your super, super favourite can be spoilt just by a surly waiter serving you with  disgruntled and impassionate outlook, the little things in life can make a difference and just having the ‘edge’ taken off of something can reduce it from fabulous to “it was nice” in one fell swoop. (It only takes a small pin to burst a big balloon). Attitude is the telling aspect of ourselves and if it’s tinged with negativity it will almost always be under par, if it’s positive then even the dullest of things will have a tinge of excitement, it’s that simple. You can make excuses until the cows come home, but fooling yourself with pathetic conjecture to try and make you think you are better than you are is futile, facile and pointless, anyway it’s only you who is letting yourself down. Our lives, our partners, our food, our clothes, our friends, our job, our thoughts all must strike a note with something that empathises within us for if it doesn’t then we are either already dead or teetering on the verge of it. We are only as good or as interesting and a fabulous as we make out, it rests with us, no one else, we can’t blame others or the lack of others for who we are as we control who and what we are, and as soon as we realise that then from that moment life does get significantly better. Frustration, lack of this n’ that, can’t do this n’ that are all incidentals, and putting weight on to external factors to make us come alive is the biggest opt out that many have, it not only reduces ones self esteem but acts as a “scape goat” in translation within our mind, absolving ourselves from getting our act together.

We have an empathy of some sort with most aspects of our lives even if it’s to do with our cars or food or hobbies or interests, it’s something that drives our enthusiasm and gives us the impetus to shine or attain knowledge without a great deal of effort, it provides a degree of enjoyment and purpose and an ongoing feel of wanting to continue. Of course our circumstances can play a part in how our empathy resonates within us and even the common flu can knock us for six for a while where we tend to lose interest in everything including eating. Fortunately we don’t have year long flu and even disabilities that we develop, for many do not preclude us enjoying what we like even at a different level. As we progress in life age has a bearing as does our ability to proficiently do what we could do more easily years earlier, we also gain more knowledge of life, have experienced a few more knocks, set backs, ups and downs, disappointments, losses, and whatever else has come our way, yet within us we still have the ability to empathise with aspects of life that still give us pleasure, that’s assuming we allow it to happen. All too often the self effacing aspects of man literally does “cut off his nose to spite his face” thinking that some kind of self afflicted remorse, sacrifice or unhappiness will give us a higher degree of inner credibility, well it won’t it just makes your more ‘bloody unhappy’ and a pain in the neck to those around you. Life as such doesn’t give a dam whether you enjoy life or not, it have a thing all of its own called “life” and it’s greater than all of us, so it you can’t radiate a degree of empathy towards others then certainly don’t expect it to be reciprocated, because the “others” will go to where they are appreciated, they have a soul and feelings too, and they like to be liked, they love to be loved and not listen to morose diatribe as if it’s an endless soap series on all about my pathetic life and what’s gone wrong with it. Granted such conversations are better than sleeping tablets as they have no side effects and work quicker, but that’s not the point.

We tend to migrate to those we empathise with, so the good and great and humorous and positive tend to join forces and those negative beings with all their faults and traits do likewise and migrate to the negative and so on, there is a big rift in between and often those who are not quite sure which camp to be in are the procrastinators, and they can be a pain too, as they can never quite give a definitive answer to anything, which is different from those who are naturally easy going and tend to go with the flow. More and more today the issue of mental health is coming to the fore, it’s nothing new, it’s just that many in society feel that there is always an option for someone else to take over or make a decision or worse still have a tablet after which the course has run all will be well, no you’ll be worse. Coaches and psychologists can”t make up your mind for you even if to present you with an array of options, you have to take the first step, and ironically many of these “professionals” have problems of the self themselves, even self confessed ones. Making a wrong move is making a move, we all make mistakes and sometimes it’s these that jar us out of where we are and allow us to see the ‘bigger picture’ and break free from our microcosm of “all about me” which festers and rots with time placating who we are and making us look like an old cabbage and exude as much interest too. If we lose the life passion it’s because of our inner self for no one can give it to us, dwelling on the self is absolutely the worst thing you can do as it cuts you off from mankind and humanity to the extent you always seem to commune at arms length and thus in time lost the plot. As difficult as it may be at times to put on a brave face, smile when inside you need to cry, it’s what you have to do, it’s what everyone has to do, there are no short cuts and no easy answers, but by making an effort the tumblers do start to turn, even if slowly at first. It’s only the selfish that get caught up in the pity game and the get ostracised by everyone else, and still believe that they are badly done to, well if you treat yourself like a lump of ‘detritus’ then what you sow so shall you reap.

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MORE QUESTIONS THAN ANSWERS

Monday, November 8th, 2010

Do you go around with that slightly vacant expression, not quite squinting but that slightly glazed look as if in deep thought, because if you do you could be one of the many that are forever pondering and evaluating life, those creatures that see and assess yet do nothing themselves, they observe and take mental notes then apportion what’s good, not so good, valued or not, and how it equates to them, it rarely ever does. How can one equate the life of others who actually make a difference to those that plod along and just observe from afar then hypothesise as to why they did what they did and why they can’t and relate to ‘their’ situation and so on and so forth, it’s all dull stuff. Life is full of unanswered questions and even the academics and intellectuals fall short of their own queries as life contains more than they even know and that’s another level of questions laced with extrapolations and conundrums and aesthetic qualitative and quantitative evaluations which has no relevance whatsoever to living a life that’s full and meaning. It’s good to be in possession of knowledge, yet a little learning in the wrong context can be almost lethal, like having a serum for good health, too little and it won’t work, too much and it could cause complications or worse death. Human ability to go forward on potential, hope and discovery is legendary, well it is on planet earth anyway, what aliens do maybe something else, and it’s not every race, culture, religion that has made dramatic changes for the better, there are still some cultures and religions that are hell bent on killing for the sake of it and holding on to the past, such is the hollow and Devil related nature of their God, hiding behind peace and love yet smiling with jagged teeth and breath of poison fumes. The uncertainty of aspects of life at times gives rise to confusion and cause for why things are the way they are, and why people do what they do when the only outcome is mayhem, corruption and suffering, but avariciousness, greed, power, ego, and all the other negative emotions are the root cause why such goings-on still exists. Where love is a root ingredient nothing grossly untoward would ever happen as there would be no reason as to why it should.

We have to live every day without many answers being answered, sometimes a whole lifetime goes by and aspects of it remain a mystery and racking our brain is a futile exercise as it gets us even more confused, perplexed and at times destabalised than when we started out. Knowing that life has no credentials other than that which humanity bestows upon itself should be enough for us to comprehend at times the incomprehensible and allow a question mark to signify the end of the sentence and move on or we will forever be dragging ourselves and others down searching for eternal clues, none of which will enhance our future abilities or peace of mind. Besides forever dwelling on the past and posing imponderable questions doing so takes our mind off the here and now which is far more important, as the here and now is a prelude to tomorrow and tomorrow is where life is at and where we are going to live our lives. Like life people does weird things for the most pathetic reasons and it really doesn’t pay us to dwell on those reasons when at times nothing is ever changed. But there are some who are lacking in intelligence and are one of those useless souls that forever goes around wanting “closure” and “resolution” on every single thing that happens in life and never rests until it happens, then when it happens realise they have wasted so much time for that moment to happen that life has moved on and they have stagnated. Habitual question asking can be a problem, whilst asking questions and being inquisitive can be grossly beneficial, it can also hinder one’s ability to reason, comprehend and formulate a stance that gives the mind a presence of greater understanding from the self and not perpetually seeking an answer that has little or no bearing on enhancing life, priorities are essential for ‘greasing’ the way forward in a proficient manner.

Ignorance can be bliss, knowing too much or more likely a lot but not enough can make us veer into a state of panic and consternation because we know the what, why and how of many things but as to any degree of how it could pan out we are at a loss, unless we turn to mental conjecture and then that throws us unto a bigger state of flux as we are grappling with unknowns and hypothetical states which could be totally erroneous. There’s nothing worse in any aspect of life basing situations or aspects of thought or literally on what we think as opposed to what we know, the differences can be staggeringly miles apart. We live our lives no one else can ever do so, if we forever search for the “happiness” trail, then we lose out totally as we hope that in doing so we will find a degree of satisfaction, closure, meaning, purpose, love, harmony, understanding, and the rest, only to find that others are in a similar boat, although within that stance many may have priorities outside of themselves and that gives a greater purpose all on its own. For many their belief gives real and true stability especially when all else seems to be at odds with ones thoughts, and for those that don’t believe then it’s usually something based upon their own theories in life which in the long term always flounders because they don’t know enough of their subject to gain any real base knowledge and its completely stilted, biased and full of pathetic subliminal hope covering up gross insecurity and it often creates more mental unrest. 

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I’M ALL ALONE

Thursday, November 4th, 2010

There’s no big secret that some people are predominantly all alone just about all the time, however we can all be “all alone” at certain times within the bigger picture, i.e. we have families, partners, and real friends but, it’s just that for whatever reason we feel isolated, and although these are temporal phases they enter our lives and just as quickly leave them too. There is that “alone-ness” that hits predomintly single people of an age of approximately 30+ and is more evident in women than men as women respond more emotionally to such a situation than men do, and it affects their mental stance on life and outlook. Then there are those who are alone because they believe they are not understood, well, that can be true also, it can also mean that you are selfish and self centred and things aren’t going your way. And there are those who feel alone because circumstances for whatever reason have either overtaken them or have not been conducive to incorporate them into a more wholesome environment that’s conducive to who they are and fits their mental temperament such as the old and infirm. And wandering aimlessly are those who are just lonely souls by nature, can’t find a hook upon which to hang their coat, can’t find a mate because deep within that feeling of having someone else in life never just quite catches on, the eternal lonely person. Loneliness can also be something which is selfishly created, there are many who by their own nature are mean, they not only just cannot give (yet they think they are generous for some reason) but don’t see self meanness as a part of whom they are. Meanness is not necessarily monetary in value, it’s giving time, effort, help, knowledge, just listening (which is an art), it’s a quality value that humans give to other deserving humans at times. The more people give of themselves the better they commune with life and the more open minded they are and knowledgeable they are as well as have elevated degrees of compassion and understanding. Lonely people take offence, are usually politically correct, have defined and stilted views, are self reliant, and self centred to a high degree, view life as a necessary option, i.e. I might I might not, whereas the person who is giving will be more decisive yet understanding at what they are acceding to.

Creators, scientists, artists, writers, etc, can be loners, even if in a good partnership, often their dedication is a pathway which cannot be shared with others until completion, and then for them completion is an ongoing event, as there is always a new frontier ahead that needs working upon or seeing to. The road for many in life can be fraught even if success is evident en-route, the inner self and soul are at times poles apart as is the mental satisfaction that many seek but never really grasp, as it for some reason always appears out of reach. Intelligence more than education is a crucial aspect to understand where one is in life, and where education can define intellectual goals and scenarios it can also create rifts of conjecture that like chasms are so deep that crossing them is almost a step too far and thus life always has something missing and is always that degree under-performing and always just missing that feeling of completeness in the pit of your stomach. Loneliness by far is self created, circumstances preclude some from making contact with others, but for the vast majority of people loneliness is either by design or default, either way it’s you who is the instigator of not communing with others, no one will believe the excuses that are self created either. Effort of all kinds has to be put into life, being shy or not very effusive doesn’t preclude one for living a life that’s full on, it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but that’s not important it’s not everyone that has to live your life, nor you theirs. Hiding behind being misunderstood or not mixing with the right people isn’t an option either, the only option other than physical circumstances is that of death itself, everything else has a level of convergence and if that’s rejected and rejected and rejected then the inner self will eventually lose the ability to respond to other humans at any level and then the rot sets in.

Loneliness has it’s dark side, apart from creating instability, it can grossly affect one’s equilibrium and mental health, from there onwards life is a toil, one can become self interested, cranky, set in one’s ways, isolated,  self consumed, and even lose the touch to forming any real friendship because one is so used to the me, me, me, effect that there is never any room for anyone else no matter what level, it’s all mental self talk of “why should I” and one is then ostracised from enjoying life, it’s a rush to always get back home, home is the womb of safety and talking to oneself as there is no one else to share life with. Our friendships develop over our lives, some people we hold on to for days or just the holiday season, others months, some years and some a lifetime. And some who we had known for almost an entire lifetime suddenly departs without a trace or the magic just wanes and they become almost strangers all over again. Acquaintances over time can be very dear, and whilst there may not be the greatest camaraderie between the both parties there is a trust and reliability that counts for a great deal and provides that pivotal aspect of humanity which helps everyone in life move forward with a better inner feeling of life and degrees of happiness, even if most is of a past era. The short time we have on planet earth needs to be fuelled with all that’s good, and that has to be shared at whatever level with others, even if the mix of those that only share parts of our lives is far far greater than those which share a lot of our lives. Whatever we choose to share is down to us, but it’s self comforting to share a degree of warmth as that’s reciprocated and inwardly absorbed and pacifies our inner self, which is crucial to feeling content and not on edge or just killing time because there’s nothing better or else to do, which is all too uncommon.  

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THE WILL TO LIVE

Tuesday, November 2nd, 2010

It’s not that one has the will not to live but the thought that goes through the mind is literally “The Will To Live” life can at times seem all so daunting, out of reach, where everything is at arms length and the inner impetus to go forward is thwarted by lethargy and ‘what’s the point’, coupled with gross indecision and a total lack of knowledge as to what to do next and how and where, and all the rest, nothing quite seems to fit into place and all around life appears to be moving on for everyone else and you are stuck right where you are, almost super-glued to the spot. Of course all of this can’t be further from the truth, life is experienced from within your own mind no where else, no one can see life from your perspective and why should they, they have their own. How we all view life is both complex and simple at the same time, it’s simple in that what we all see is exactly the same, how we register it all can be as different as chalk and cheese so it’s vital that we take care of our minds and not let them play tricks on us or allow our sluggish feelings to take us into a state of self pity, which is quite common. Our backgrounds can play a big part in our visualisation of the future, if we come from a somewhat negative background then we are likely to have that stance within us, and similarly if we come from a positive background then we are prone to being more positive in life and don’t let the knocks and setbacks hinder our way in going forward, knowing that all we experience is grist for the mill in making us stronger and more resilient and knowledgeable, whereas the negative idiots fall back on “why me” all the time as if they have been singled out. What the negative people do is literally single themselves out and thus making matters worse by churning over and over again their predicament and mixing it with a bit of ego, arrogance, self esteem (or lack of it), and the rest and formulating some kind of monster thoughts which then take on a life of their own, and in reality don’t exist. It’s often this self created world that many live in and then wonder why life doesn’t have the sparkle it should, and often letting themselves down thinking that there is some magic formula to success whereas it most cases it’s purely down to diligence and ongoing pursuits that wins the day.

Life is crammed full of contradictions, truths and untruths and its disseminating which is which and why when even plausible aspects of life can be full of remorseful endings and the seemingly simplest of things can be full of subliminal meanings that fast forward us on to bigger and better things. The press and media don’t help as everything they do and say has been “treated” with ‘lipgloss’ to make it appear either more sexy, more horrifying, more desperate or more gloomy to give it added depth and to enhance what often is humdrum comment, real news speaks for itself without the fanfare of hyped emotion to try and give kudos and meaning to the subject matter. We should elevate ourselves from being passive sponges absorbing everything around us regardless of its content and stick to what is important to us, ourselves. If we can’t take refuge in ourselves and be “at one” with ourselves and be happy, regardless of our circumstances, what can we do, happiness is self generated no one can give it to you, so we are always going to be the product of lacklustre and an inner fatigue feeling that life must be better than this, when in reality it is. There are no quick fixes in life, there are highs and lows, but no quick fixes even winning the lottery despite it sounding grand has on most people a long term detrimental effect as they can’t cope, they think they can until it happens then the story changes over night. Our perceptions can deal a deathly blow to reality and if we don’t take a reality check at times we lure ourselves into a mind set of fantasy and then we really lose the plot big time. If we become stable in our thought process then we are better at looking after others, communing with life and seeing the bigger picture, whereas negative minded people pass by then wonder why nothing ever happens.

Hubble, bubble, toil and struggle, is that you? Do you wax lyrical about how you are dragging yourself along in life, that others are getting this n’ that, and you have been shunted into a siding and left there? Well, you haven’t been left anywhere you didn’t want to be, no-one shunted you into anything, no-one lives your life, no-one has an agenda for you – why should they – they have more important things to do like looking after their lot. It’s nothing to do with God, if you believe then you have free-will, and then you must have faith, but you obviously don’t otherwise you wouldn’t be whinging and moaning you’d be believing, so that puts the ball firmly back into your own court.  Mild depression, apathy, lowness of self, little going at the moment, people around you are glum, circumstances not so hot either, and so it goes on, but our feelings are just emotional, and we only have to have one bit of good news and all the negativity falls away, at least for a while such is the power of self thought. Nations thrive on overall positivity that’s why the West always does better than most other countries because there’s an impetus overall that propels them forward, negativity attracts negativity and that’s in some cases ingrained into cultures that are today outmoded and defunct, yet exude parameters and ritualistic and cultural diktat that gives rise to hurt, stress, guilt and the rest and where that four letter-word is overlooked – love – in favour of old selfish protocols. We have but one life so it’s imperative that we enjoy it not dread it, even when things go wrong we don’t have to make a meal out of it otherwise we establish it further as a situation of greater importance then give it gravitas and it then starts to grow into something that we live within even after it has diminished and is no longer. Those that make the grade seek only the future, the past is literally history, an area we can’t enter anyone other than via our own emotions, others can’t join us in that so it’s all pointless and futile to our future happiness. The Will To Live, there’s no other option than to live it as best you can evey day, that way it just gets better.  

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THE GUILT OF SELF DENIAL

Monday, November 1st, 2010

Habits can be formed at any level, even daily routines can in some cases become habitual and when circumstances dictate change it throws the whole of the body and mind into a wobbly, not starting out right for some mentally upsets the day, such is the power of our little minds. Our attitude towards life will dictate how we are going to go forward or reside forever in a stasis of mediocrity whilst forever complaining about things not happening or moving forward, but at the end of the day, just cutting to the quick and eradicating the self created sob stories, it’s only us who can change who we are no one else, regardless of circumstances. There is no such thing as being disadvantaged although things can be unfair, but then where in life is there anything written to say that life is fair – there isn’t, we are born into a world just the way it is and reside in it just the way things are. We have, excluding Islamic countries, opportunities to do what we want and go where we please, such is the base of freedom, although freedom has a price to pay also, but less than a society dictated to by endless rules and regulations telling you what you can and can’t do. We are all different as people, some are gregarious and some are just “stick in the mud” type of people, but that’s all down to us, and society, life and opportunity don’t give a dam as to which one we reflect or practise, it’s up to us to go fishing for what’s out there, nothing will jump out of the water on to our table. The complexity of how we live our lives is formed by our character, regardless of our educational aptitudes and abilities, nerds can become billionaires today, and those of old who have the gift of the gab can still be seen doing the rounds residing in their self knowledge that they are the bee knees, whereas they are quite hum drum in reality, even if what they have to say is spot on, they just don’t have it within them to break that ‘glass ceiling’ of self created thought, even if the mind waxes lyrical and has visions of greater things, the outcome doesn’t cut the mustard.

Many get into a state of routine, knowledge, status, contacts, etc, and live within that framework, not often venturing out of it or if they do quickly fall back to where they were before as nothing really takes a hold and progresses to a super level rarely materialises, and if it does it’s only fleeting. Arrogance, degrees of smugness, “old boys” attitudes with regards one’s peers, all have the effect of dampening the way forward even if a good living is made out of what they do, it all somehow resides in an elliptical mode touching a lot of ‘sameness’ and moving on like the moon orbiting the earth, the effect it has on earth is substantial, but nothing new, and many people are like that in life seeking elevation out of their devised orbit but never have the ability to pull away from the gravitational force which others seem to do and rise to dizzy heights or just higher elevations. As times ticks by many take refuge in maturity in that they have lost that youthful urge to become whatever it was in life, and time has melded attitudes and just being comfortable in life becomes the new mode of forward thinking. Frustration, lack of drive, self confidence, the endless making up of excuses, the making up of endless obstacles, the making up of anything to thwart the feeling that failure or lack of self is the real cause for not moving forward. Where real entrepreneurs just thrive on the ability within to “Go” not relying on social networks and other such “Tupperware” or “Janet Reager” parties to try and move forward with help from a flock of people who are all in the same boat of mediocraty. Guilt of the self is not uncommon no matter how it is manifested, evading reality or not confronting the real causes and eternally trying often strikes a more cordial and progressive note within, but it boils down to the same thing, status quo, zilch.

There is only one thing holding us back and that’s ourselves, if we died life would carry on without us, so our self built importance wanes in such thoughts, moving forward rambling aimlessly about how it isn’t or should be or hasn’t been or whatever smacks of a sterile thought process where the needle has got stuck un the groove, we can’t move forward with regrets. Guilt, regrets and depression go hand in hand like a gin and tonic and a slice of lemon, it all fits together, but unlike a G&T the former isn’t a quick refreshing experience it’s a trail of twilight wanderings that make life a toil as opposed to a pleasure. Whatever is out there for us it’s down to us to make it work, and whether our pursuits take days, weeks, months years – like many scientists have had to encounter – success equates to staying power nothing more, if we move forward with doubt then we should give up right now otherwise what is the purpose. But the last thing we should do is deny ourselves any opportunities based upon others thoughts or circumstances, others thoughts are just that and circumstances can change overnight, so we have to be firm in our forward direction to allow ourselves the ability to proceed at all costs, and that momentum eventually breaks the glass ceilings and man made barriers that only reside in our thoughts even if others try to implement them for their purpose, but to  no avail. The pathway at times can be lonely but there again it’s better that way than carrying the baggage of unbelievers which is a heavy and wasteful burden in itself.    

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