Being thoughtful is not just thinking about others or they about you, it’s a way of living life, it’s in many ways a holistic part of who you are and what your values are. There are many views about those that are thoughtful, to some it’s a weakness of why would or should you do something for others when there’s no merit behind the thought. For others it’s part of either a Godly life where love reigns or that one is a member of humanity and enjoys by and large fellow man. Even the most dastardly and religiously insane appreciate thoughtfulness although they dare not admit it as it tends to uncover their resolute flaws about being whom they purport to be.
Those that have degrees of thought and consideration towards others are usually well liked, trusted, admired and shown degrees of respect, whereas those that have little thought usually brandish the traits of selfishness, sullenness, lacking in humour, lacking in creativity and tend to be lonely as well as at times unstable. Being thoughtful also enhances thought and in turn elements of creativity because the mental approach to life is not always on the self but on others too and sharing and seeing joy on others faces or reactions and is indeed reward enough for many, again some will not see it like that but then it shows the kind of person they are.
Those that can show thoughtfulness in companies tend to get on better than those that don’t because they have an intrinsic ability to communicate well and do so because they can see the bigger picture over and above those that do the minimum and others are forever trying to find answers to what should have been copied or advised upon. Thoughtfulness between our friends and loved ones gives us a good feeling of being wanted and needed and similarly caring for those who are significant in our lives, although kindnesses and thoughtfulness extends to all. Thoughtfulness goes hand in hand with reliability and thoughts transcend the ‘what’s in it for me’ scenario and again take into consideration the thoughts, feelings and welfare of others too. We can like someone yet not respect them, we can respect someone and yet not like them such is the way our characters and mindset sees others and how we interact, but when we are in a mess we would have no hesitation in asking for help from the thoughtful ones even if we don’t particularly like them as we would inherently know deep down that our chances and options of getting help are far greater.
Most people get a buzz of some sort from helping others, that mutual feeling of giving highlights our abilities to commune well with others and even if we can’t speak a common language our actions are universal and that’s an achievement in itself that strangers by and large appreciate others and their plight or wants or needs. Thoughtfulness should be a natural element of consideration and forward thought, if however it has an ulterior motive such as “if I do this they will do that or hopefully do what’s anticipated” then divisive thoughts is tantamount to being insincere and selfish.
There is real power in our thought, it can stack against us or it can elevate us to higher platforms. Most people would wish to think they are thoughtful however if asked would try to quickly identify an example, whereas the truly thoughtful have nothing to prove and quietly go about their day just being thoughtful. One quickly picks up on the traits of others and how they deliver their actions and see if they coincide with their words, often there is a discrepancy and that’s where one can spot a mile away what makes people tick.
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